Chorichori Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 It was a toxic relationship and so in Novemeber I put some boundaries on him. I guess that freaked him out and one day he just says he needs space and blocks me from everywhere (except fb) and stops responding to me. He said to stop chasing him and that he would chase me. So I gave up eventually and blocked him from everywhere. I see that he unblocked me about a month later. So now about 2 and half months later I finally break and call/message him. I'm unblocked from everywhere but he won't respond or pick up my calls. I could even see that he is online but he is just ignoring all my messages and keeps hitting the reject button on my calls. I hate that he unblocked me and that I had this false hope. I guess he is just playing games or just wanted to keep the door open to watch me crawl back and hurt. I feel so horrible and I want to hit the block button but I'm waiting for a response
Ms Darcy Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 I agree - block, delete, and accept that the relationship is long over.
ParisPaulette Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 I think a better question to ask than why is he doing that is why are you attracted to someone who is toxic, and expecting anything but more toxicity if you contact him. That's what you should be focusing on. Real life isn't like fiction, that "bad boy" or "girl" doesn't have a heart of gold, and they usually need a lot of therapy and life hitting them in the face a time or three thousand before they up and change. IF they ever change. And change does not come easy, even for the most motivated. Neither one of you should have to "chase" the other, period.
Jibralta Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 I guess he is just playing games or just wanted to keep the door open to watch me crawl back and hurt. Yup!! Give up on this crap and move on to bigger and better things!
Chorichori Posted February 8, 2017 Author Posted February 8, 2017 Worst part is how he sees my messages then deliberately changes his profile and cover picture 1-2hours later. Jerk. I need to stop looking for closure and stop asking 'why'
jujusamples Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 Worst part is how he sees my messages then deliberately changes his profile and cover picture 1-2hours later. Jerk. I need to stop looking for closure and stop asking 'why' He is not worth all your attention. People like him just wants to get a reaction from you. The more you get bothered by his behavior the more he's going to keep doing what's he's doing. Just do nothing! Do not respond, do not call, do not text, just don't play along with him. Just do nothing, that will eventually bother him more than how you are bothered by his behavior right now. I really hope you don't respond back to him if he reaches out to you. It's time for you to accept what is and yes, stop wondering "why".
MissCanuck Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 You need to block him now, and keep it that way. This is so unhealthy for you.
HeartGoesOn Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 Worst part is how he sees my messages then deliberately changes his profile and cover picture 1-2hours later. Jerk. I need to stop looking for closure and stop asking 'why' I'm sorry, but you're stooping to his level by providing him with an audience. Why not be the bigger person, and refuse to participate in this nonsense? The bottom line is, if he wants to act like an adult and contact you, he knows how to get in touch.
Chorichori Posted February 8, 2017 Author Posted February 8, 2017 I'm sorry, but you're stooping to his level by providing him with an audience. Why not be the bigger person, and refuse to participate in this nonsense? The bottom line is, if he wants to act like an adult and contact you, he knows how to get in touch. Does that mean that I should not keep him blocked for when he wants to contact me?
Wiseman2 Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 Did he update or sync his devices or get new ones? It seems the unblock was not an invitation to contact him. The most important thing to do is stay no contact and delete, unfriend, unfollow, and block him from all social media and messaging. Out of sight out of mind helps you heal and move on better.he needs space and blocks me from everywhere (except fb) and stops responding to me. 2 and half months later I finally break and call/message him. I'm unblocked from everywhere but he won't respond or pick up my calls. I could even see that he is online but he is just ignoring all my messages and keeps hitting the reject button on my calls.
SooSad33 Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 Well.. you already know it was a 'toxic' relationship. Why play these games? He's gone... and NOT worth it! Move on.. ignore...simple.
abitbroken Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 "i need space" means its over. If you guys broke up and blocked eachother - he doesn't want contact from you. He is moving on and so should you. How do you know he unblocked you unless YOU unblocked him to see it? You are worrying about nothing. Are you mad that he didn't fall at your feet when you sent him a message? Maybe he doesn't want to play games with you anymore - he was done with you and doesn't owe you anything. Please move on.
Chorichori Posted February 8, 2017 Author Posted February 8, 2017 "i need space" means its over. If you guys broke up and blocked eachother - he doesn't want contact from you. He is moving on and so should you. How do you know he unblocked you unless YOU unblocked him to see it? You are worrying about nothing. Are you mad that he didn't fall at your feet when you sent him a message? Maybe he doesn't want to play games with you anymore - he was done with you and doesn't owe you anything. Please move on. There is an app called whatsapp You could block the person but could still see if the person has blocked you or not. That was how I knew He had blocked me from everywhere except for fb eventhough i had contacted him via fb As of now despite contacting him I am unblocked from everywhere. When he had initially blocked me he said it was because he no longer wanted me to contact him.
Chorichori Posted February 8, 2017 Author Posted February 8, 2017 Did he update or sync his devices or get new ones? It seems the unblock was not an invitation to contact him. The most important thing to do is stay no contact and delete, unfriend, unfollow, and block him from all social media and messaging. Out of sight out of mind helps you heal and move on better. Nope Same device and everything else.not to mention he did not block me again when I did reach out to him yesterday
Jibralta Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 Does that mean that I should not keep him blocked for when he wants to contact me? Keep him blocked in all cases.
Chorichori Posted February 10, 2017 Author Posted February 10, 2017 Thanks guys He's blocked now. I don't think I'll be asking 'what if' or 'why' anymore Perhaps I needed this to finally realize that it's over and to finally let go I'm not heartbroken or crying or anything. I feel pretty nonchalant about it all now. Time to move on now
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