Braytc Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 Went on a first date with a girl. We had a good time it felt like. Just wondering if at the end of the date before she gets out of my car, she moves closer without me doing anything and we both just end up instantaneously having a long kiss.. Is it anything to be happy about or what does that usually mean? After a first date what should happen besides texting eachother like we are? Thanks
Krankor Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 More than likely there was chemistry that she felt, so good. What happens now? Ask her out again.
mustlovedogs Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 I've never kissed on a first date but the only ones I would've been open to a first date kiss are the guys I was really in to. So this is good!
tattoobunnie Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 Ask her out again, but specifically give a day, and something like, "Are you free on Friday? I'd like to take you out to dinner?" If you're in your 30's CALL her. And if you're in your 20's eh, okay to text, but no long-winded conversations by text. To get to know her, it happens between her ears - not on a tiny screen. I'd say Friday, but getting a V-day weekend reservation can be tough.
Wiseman2 Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 Sounds like she's into you. Enjoy. More dates and less texting 6747000]After a first date what should happen besides texting eachother?
Betterwithout Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 These moments are usually the most memorable and enjoyable in the dating process. Put the analytical hat away and enjoy the process. Text her that you'd like to take her out to (cool place in town/fun event/new restaurant)
Braytc Posted February 9, 2017 Author Posted February 9, 2017 so just a little update from today. For some reason she doesn't seem AS nearly talkative or anything as she was before our date, still talking to me of course. She did seem shy/nervous even on our date and i couldn't tell what that ment. She seemed to open up a lot to me and telling me about her past life, family, why she's single etc. I'm just getting so many mixed signals or i'm just paranoid because i like her so much. She just seemed to not be super talkative like she was. But she did say okay to another date this friday or saturday
mustlovedogs Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 You need to step back from your insecurity and look at the facts. She made out with you. She still texts you. She agreed to date #2. I never do any of those things if I'm not interested. But if you don't reel in your insecurity, you could ruin this.
Braytc Posted February 9, 2017 Author Posted February 9, 2017 You need to step back from your insecurity and look at the facts. She made out with you. She still texts you. She agreed to date #2. I never do any of those things if I'm not interested. But if you don't reel in your insecurity, you could ruin this. Appreciate it! I'm just really, pessimistic. More than anyone you'll ever meet. Not in an openly bad way, but just to myself. I always look at the worst side of things so that i'm not shocked or surprised later, that's just how i handle things haha. Should i just really minimize the texting, is it bad to text with her often? How can i ruin it just so i know haha
mbee Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 Appreciate it! I'm just really, pessimistic. More than anyone you'll ever meet. Not in an openly bad way, but just to myself. I always look at the worst side of things so that i'm not shocked or surprised later, that's just how i handle things haha. Should i just really minimize the texting, is it bad to text with her often? How can i ruin it just so i know haha This is something you need to work on. I get it's easy to be pessimistic but it's not a good vibe to take into a dating situation. Be positive and open so you don't sabotage something that could be awesome. How old are the both of you? I get easily turned off by texting and I'm in my late 20s. However, I've been on a couple of dates with a guy (first date kiss too) and he texts me once or twice a day to ask how I am, share details about our day and that's the perfect amount. It's not overbearing but not so much time passes where I'm like "did this guy lose interest?" So maybe touch base daily or every other day. Mirror what she does too. If she takes ages to reply, she might not be a fan of texting so match her speed.
Braytc Posted February 9, 2017 Author Posted February 9, 2017 This is something you need to work on. I get it's easy to be pessimistic but it's not a good vibe to take into a dating situation. Be positive and open so you don't sabotage something that could be awesome. How old are the both of you? I get easily turned off by texting and I'm in my late 20s. However, I've been on a couple of dates with a guy (first date kiss too) and he texts me once or twice a day to ask how I am, share details about our day and that's the perfect amount. It's not overbearing but not so much time passes where I'm like "did this guy lose interest?" So maybe touch base daily or every other day. Mirror what she does too. If she takes ages to reply, she might not be a fan of texting so match her speed. I understand that, it's just a habit i guess. I'm 23 and she's 21. Both live in the same town so that adds to how great the situation is. I've been mirroring her. Before the date she would initiate some texting, today is the first day after the date night of course, but she hasn't really been texting me nearly as much as she did the past week. I felt like texting a good morning text, then an after work text to see how the day went and all of that was good as well, so i did that today after we texted all last night after the date. I guess for some reason I just got scared, but then she said yes to friday or saturday so. Can i just ask, do girls straight up tell you their feelings or how they feel about you? Maybe i'm just expecting her to tell me she loves me or something. I just got that vibe the way she texted me before our first day like she would do that right off the bat. What usually happens when you call it a committed official relationship? Do we talk about that or
mustlovedogs Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 Woah, slow down. You've been on *one* date. She won't say anything except yes to a date. Just watch the signs. Continue to express interest. Don't play so much in to this mirroring bs - do what you want and feels right. And figure out how to be less pessimistic. Don't justify saying it's a habit - work on changing this habit.
mbee Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 I understand that, it's just a habit i guess. I'm 23 and she's 21. Both live in the same town so that adds to how great the situation is. I've been mirroring her. Before the date she would initiate some texting, today is the first day after the date night of course, but she hasn't really been texting me nearly as much as she did the past week. I felt like texting a good morning text, then an after work text to see how the day went and all of that was good as well, so i did that today after we texted all last night after the date. I guess for some reason I just got scared, but then she said yes to friday or saturday so. Can i just ask, do girls straight up tell you their feelings or how they feel about you? Maybe i'm just expecting her to tell me she loves me or something. I just got that vibe the way she texted me before our first day like she would do that right off the bat. What usually happens when you call it a committed official relationship? Do we talk about that or Yes, please slow down. Is this the first woman you've dated before or have you had dating experience before? Nope girls do not straight up tell you their feelings after just one date. You should go on at least 5 dates before even thinking about putting a label of gf/bf on it, and that's the minimum. Telling someone that you love them is a huge deal. I don't even contemplate doing that for 2-3 months minimum but everyone is different. Just go with the flow, enjoy the ride and plan an awesome date for the weekend! Don't think about relationship status or love right now. Have fun! Dating is the fun and romantic part so enjoy it.
trojan Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 If she kissed you on the first date and said she will go out on another date, you are dating. relax a little, even though this is easier said than done. before each date, take some deep breaths and get rid of all negativity; guess what she doesnt even want to hear it.She does'nt want to hear you whining about your niggling little issues. She wants it to be nice. Sit down and think of something awesome you saw, a cool beach or whatever, hold that image in your mind, and slowly let all negativity out of your head. Now there is a vacuum where the negativity was,and nature does not like a vacuum and nature needs to fill that vacuum, so it has to fill with something;fill your mind with good stuff you want to talk with to her. This could be the best thing that ever happens to you in your life.
Braytc Posted February 9, 2017 Author Posted February 9, 2017 She just texted me "i miss you" Maybe i'm just too quick, depending on what it is, i can be impatient i guess. And i think that's what it is. I expect something to happen right away. People go on that many dates until then? That seems so ridiculous haha. I'm going to take your advice, hopefully all goes well this weekend. Appreciate you helping. I've been on a couple GOOD dates the past year that didn't really turn into anything, so that's why i get nervous about something not coming of it.
KantSleep Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 It's good you come here for advice. Just be cool, take it slow. Have fun, live in the moment. In the beginning it is tough, you can't help but to wonder, what is she thinking? She will likely be thinking the same thing of you. A friend once told me, think of yourself as the prize. Not to be conceited or what have you, but what she meant was think about all your positive attributes and what you bring to the table. Sure, we all have negatives - but leave them home this weekend.
Betterwithout Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 ^^^ what everyone else said. I'll add to please enjoy this stage! It's not the final exams or a gruelling job interview. Have fun, lose the negativity (not just for dating, but for your own well being) Good luck on your date...Valentine
surfdiva Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 She just texted me "i miss you" Maybe i'm just too quick, depending on what it is, i can be impatient i guess. And i think that's what it is. I expect something to happen right away. People go on that many dates until then? That seems so ridiculous haha. I'm going to take your advice, hopefully all goes well this weekend. Appreciate you helping. I've been on a couple GOOD dates the past year that didn't really turn into anything, so that's why i get nervous about something not coming of it. Whoa..."I miss you" after one date? Well, I guess that answers your question. She's definitely interested. Try to take things a little slow. You don't want to crash and burn by going so fast. Can I ask how old you both are?
Braytc Posted February 9, 2017 Author Posted February 9, 2017 Whoa..."I miss you" after one date? Well, I guess that answers your question. She's definitely interested. Try to take things a little slow. You don't want to crash and burn by going so fast. Can I ask how old you both are? Appreciate it. She's 21 and im 23. Glad i came here to get other people's view points and so i can at least try to stop a mess up before it happens. Just not sure of the proper steps etc
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