Stressed or breaking up?

[Jadeamitchell]

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This is a long one we have been together just over a year he moved down to my hometown really quickly and things were great we moved into a house and things were not so great we decided mutually to move out of the house as we couldn't afford it I had a job and he didn't and was slot of stress on both of us. We said we wanted to stay together and try and make it work. Since then he told me he thinks he's depressed he hasn't found a job and he's in a rut ect I asked him if it was us would he be better without me and he said no he's just stressed and needed some space. Since then we do text and occasional phone call hours between reply's or sometimes none at all always initiated by me we do see each other when I arrange it and when I'm with him he strokes my hair and holds my hand ect but no where near what he used too he still couldn't find a job so now he's saying he's going back home he doesn't talk alot about our future a few comments here and there and he never says I love you hardly ever but does say it back when I do I asked of he wanted us to stay together when he moved up as we had been travelling to see each other previously before he moved down he said yes he wouldn't have stuck around for as long as he did if he didn't. Something just seems off I've read men do withdraw when stressed and relationships go to the back of there mind but I've also read this is also a way of them breaking up without having to do it any help please I'm going crazy not knowing were I stand?

[Wiseman2]

Sorry to hear things didn't work out. Did he have a job when he moved to your town and moved in with you? Where is he living now? Did you move back to your parents?

 

If he still can't find work in your town it's best he return to his original place/job. How did you meet? Were you supporting him?it sounds like he's backing out of the relationship because thing aren't working.

 

Don't get strung along that a LDR will work after he moved there and decided to move back. Does he have a recent exgf back there?

a year he moved down to my hometown really quickly and things were great we moved into a house and things were not so great we decided mutually to move out of the house as we couldn't afford it I had a job and he didn't. he still couldn't find a job so now he's saying he's going back home

[gebaird]

I asked him if it was us would he be better without me

 

He may have said "no" with words, but his actions seem to be saying "yes."

 

In your efforts to give him what he wants, have you stopped to think about what you really want? It seems you don't have much of a relationship at the moment.