Lucha Posted February 7, 2017 Share Posted February 7, 2017 Hi everyone! I am back for your advice. For the first time in a over a year I have developed an interest in someone and don't know how to proceed. Background information: I'm a 28 y.o. Lesbian woman, had a hard breakup three years ago, some short dating experiences after that, have been single for around 15 months now and had a really hard year last year: mother's health issues (which in fact I received relatively bad news about yesterday, she has a benign tumor in her ear and probably has to undergo surgery), father'/ health issues, had my own health issues (nothing major), a dating experience that ended in a big dissapointment when the girl chose someone else, decided not to date for a while, my young pet died suddenly,... So there has been a dark cloud over 2016 and still overshadowinf the current time. I have been working myself with a psychotherapist to process the past few years and this helped tremendously. I was in fact okay with not dating anyone, and that was new to me. Situation now: due to the above situation, For a long time I felt no-one could catch my interest. And i was eventually okay with that. I felt like I had been hurt too many times to be receptive for any more connections. The past year I have lived a fairly isolated, non-dating life focused on career. I am a medical doctor doing a specialty in psychiatry. Now, I have started to work in a new place last week (we have to change every six months) and there is this really charming Italian female physiotherapist also working there. She vividly and very friendly introduced herself the first day and I was charmed in an instant. Confused by my apparent ability to still experience feelings of attraction I am contemplating what I will do with these feelings. I in fact looked her up on facebook and the brief visible public information showed she is into woman too! It is a delicate matter however since I am a doctor in this department and she is a team member, so a certain hierarchy is to be expected. For all I know the woman (who is a few years older than me) might be married or dating or not even interested at all, but I'm hoping to find out and wondering how to do this in a subtle, not too vulnerable manner. PS: I am well aware my new discovered attraction to this woman could reflect my own still vulnerable mental state and codependency, however as stated above I really think I have worked a long way through my issues and this interest I have in her is genuine. Any advice would be great. Link to comment
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