Any Suggestions???

[nyabrown3130]

So, my boyfriend and I's anniversary is coming up (1 year). I was planning a nice evening together, and I need some suggestions. So, I wanted to burn a really nice smelling candle, and I was wanting a nice scent to "set the mood" something not too overwhelming. I really wanted to give him a massage...does anyone have any suggestions as far as techniques go. I've tried in the past, but I feel like I don't use enough pressure. Do you know how I can fix that, and I want to try massage oil any recommendations?

[gebaird]

There's a jasmine vanilla massage oil that works really well and smells AMAZING -- at least to me. It's sold by Bath & Body Shop here in the states. The massage oil may be all the scent you need, but a few unscented candles can add to the romance.

 

Have you tried straddling him when giving a massage? I've found that works better than standing while my partner lies on the bed. You want to be able to lean over him and use your weight to apply the appropriate pressure and keep your hands from tiring out. Ask him if you're using too much or too little pressure and adjust accordingly.

[pippy longstocking]

My boyfriend and I have been together a year come February. I don't know if this is relevant, but he's actually the first person that I have been sexually active with period. He's had 4. We were friends before we became a couple, so that's why I'm so comfortable with him and vice versa. I'm 20. He's 21....Sooo...we were in bed together (just lounging around nothing intimate happening) when he pretty much just comes right out and tells me that I have no sex appeal, and that I'm cute. Now, I have not problem being called cute at all, but I asked why he wasn't attracted to me in that way and he proceeds to basically tells me that I just don't have anything that sticks out physically. Then, he goes down the line of his past partners or people that he's been interested in and told me what he liked about them (which normally I wouldn't have a problem with because we tend to be open like that). He told me that he has to really think about being turned on by me whereas with other people it just happened.

He told me that it's not about how I look, and that he loves me regardless....which I believe, but really who wants for there significant other to not find them attractive sexually. It's really just kind of starting to get to me, and I don't know how to change it...and what it made me realize is, is that we only have sex when he wants to because he really isn't attracted to me enough to be in the mood when I want to or to get himself in the mood... and I really am not sure how this is go to affect our physical relationship now that this has been brought to my attention...up until now I never suspected any of this so it was never a problem

 

 

After reading that darling ^^^^ I would be massaging him with a scrubbing brush and a broom handle ....

 

There are you , shot down to pieces and I tell you , you stick with this man and you will lose every bit of self respect and self esteem you have , but there you are asking how to make things wonderful and sensual and right for him .knowing how he feels about you sexually. I am 50 and this would destroy me ... so you , bless you at your age with no other experience you are putting up with this .

 

My suggestion is not massage oil , but holding your head up high and walking away ... You , me , us , all need to be with someone who brings out our sex , someone who is turned on by us , someone who makes our knees go weak and all the rest of it ... this is bad darling ..please re think your worth in this world .

[nutbrownhare]

After reading that darling ^^^^ I would be massaging him with a scrubbing brush and a broom handle ....

...and that's if I was feeling PARTICULARLY romantic...!

 

Seriously, though, there are plenty of online resources if you look up 'sensual massage'...

[Matt3939]

I got a great technique. Tell them to lay on there stomach. Then jump up on your feet and bounce and walk on the bed around them. They will eventually tell you to stop being an idiot and you can move on to other things.

[Wiseman2]

Why hasn't he come up with anything like taking you out? Why are you trying so hard? It sounds like you are driving the relationship and chasing him for attention. Stop. See if he even remembers it's your anniversary. Stop the overkill.

I was planning a nice evening together, and I need some suggestions.