journeynow Posted February 28, 2017 Share Posted February 28, 2017 HOH, so good to hear about your son's text! About your other kids, I'd stay focused on the present. If they bring up the past, you can keep it simple and say "What can I do now?" or "Can you forgive me?" and keep yourself moving forward. I honestly think their abandonment issues are not entirely about you, but also about their father. They may have repressed the grieving or have delayed grief, who knows? Are they now around the age you were when it all happened? It could exacerbate it for them; again, who knows? If you HOH can imagine setting down the burden of the past, feel yourself put that weight down and move away from it, and just focus on love and the present moment, it may help you and eventually (hopefully) them. Hugs to you! I was about to say something about you having gone through hell back when you were a young parent of young fatherless children…and then remembered your screen name. Maybe you should change it, to reflect that you no longer want to be in hell? I believe what we keep telling ourselves affects how we respond to our world; it colors our experience and affects our choices. Link to comment
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