Confused

[2heartbroken]

So my girlfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago tomorrow, after 2 years being together! She wanted no contact , cut me off her life completely. Blocked me from facebook and changed her number. It threw me for a loop, because just the Sunday before she was telling me how in love she was with me, and then Tuesday morning I received the dreaded text that she was done. I had tried for three days to text her, I did probably burn her phone up in those 3 days. My bad. We have had some issues about me being emotionally unstable, I had a really bad upbringing and past and also I had found out my youngest grandson was diagnosed with brain cancer. I have PTSD, Anxiety, Depression oh and I am BiPolar. We had a disagreement on the Monday before the break up about her wanting to start a program in her condo she lives in, It was a food program. I told her I was not interested in participating in it, and as well asked her if it was a good idea that she was taking on something else, she is a realtor and also she is on the board of her condo. So she has lots going on in her life. The what I said to her about the food program, is it will take a lot of time and strategy to get it going, and she does get stressed if she has too much on her plate, that what if someone doesn't cook, she will have to rush and get something done, and what if someone gets sick from the food, there could be a lawsuit. I was trying to be negative about it, but there is so much involved in something like that, oh she also 2 boys has that she gets every Monday and Wednesday and every other weekend. Sine I have found out about my grandson whom is 8, I have had a hard time dealing with things. I would get snappy, I was negative extremely stressed. She kept on telling me almost on a daily basis that I needed counseling but I felt she was nagging me. She does have depression and she sees an EMDR on a weekly basis, she would keep telling me I need to see one of them as well that it would do a lot of good. I didn't listen to her, because she was always on me about it. I know I am still in love with her, and I know this was a hard decision for her as well, she was still in love with me. I know it wasn't a quick decision either for her to decide to break up. What I do not know is why the no contact, how can someone cut you out of their life completely after two years. Especially with children being involved. I was really close to her boys, we were always doing things together. In total we have had about 5 disagreements, not arguments but disagreements. In the end of each one I usually caved in and went her way. I am not a drug user, she did it casually. That was something I had to accept, also she is still best friends with her ex who lives two houses away from her, and wanted him in her life, spend christmases and other occasions together, she even wanted me to spend these events with his family. I had a hard time even dealing with accepting that. But , I did. Because it was important to her. She is not a very tidy person where I am the total opposite as well. When I would go there I would clean , and cook for everyone because she cant really do that either. I would do their laundry every time I went over. I knew she worked so I figured why not. We live long distance and I would go there every week on a Thursday to a Tuesday Morning, sometimes she would still want me to stay for another week. She had come to my place the odd time. I know I have faults, I am not denying it, I know I am in need of counselling I am not denying that either. Also because her work has crazy hours she had expected me to watch her boys without asking. I didn't mind at first but then I felt she started taking advantage of me in that area. She always assumed I would just watch them. She would never let my grandchildren come over when she didn't have the boys also. I guess I am asking is there any kind of chance that we will get back together after this no contact rule. I've never heard about it before, until she did it. And through text at that. I know they say give her time to think and heal , and she will look at things differently and start speaking with me. But is that really true? Do I just let go and move on?

[boltnrun]

You don't really have a choice.

 

If she doesn't want to be together, you two won't be together.

 

Contacting her trying to convince her she's "wrong" will just make her more sure she made the right decision.

 

So yes, letting go and moving on is the best way to go.

 

Also, even if she did change her mind, how would you go about working on having a more successful relationship the second time around? Do you feel there are things you could improve about yourself? And I don't mean just realizing you should be different, I mean actual concrete changes that could improve your own life.

[Wiseman2]

Unfortunately sounds like a bad argument. Perhaps you shouldn't be watching her kids if she's using all this extra time to overextend herself.

Tuesday morning I received the dreaded text that she was done. We had a disagreement on the Monday before the break up about her wanting to start a program in her condo she lives in, It was a food program. I told her I was not interested in participating in it, and as well asked her if it was a good idea that she was taking on something else, she is a realtor and also she is on the board of her condo. because her work has crazy hours she had expected me to watch her boys without asking.

[2heartbroken]

I have not contacted her, I am respecting her wishes