EmmaS93 Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for over 2 years now. Were both almost 24 this coming March, he works in Penny's and plans to go back to college to do a Bachelors in Science while I am in a job having completed a Masters. Considering there is a big gap in what stage were at in our lives it will be a struggle to begin to raise a family when we would like to, by the time were both 28 he will only be finished college and trying to seek employment while I will have an developing career. This will be a challenge for us but I am willing to face this challenge if in the long run were compatible as a couple for the rest of our lives. My growing concern for the future is primarily focused on his weed habit. He has been smoking since 14/15 years old and he smokes least 3 times a day, with the evening being the peak time. He spends around 50 euro a week on it. I don't mind the smell of it and I don't mind the way he seems when he smokes it. I presume he has built a tolerance to the drowsy affects of the drugs as he is able to function the same as when he is sober. It's actually when he hasn't smoked for half day- day that he becomes irritated. For example when we go on holiday, particularly when we are travelling he is very irritated and snappy and I feel its because he is out of his comfort zone and doesn't have weed to help. He always compares it to me drinking, claiming that drink is the real culprit as it causes deaths and antisocial behavior. I actually agree with him but it's not the same because I don't drink every day, I only drink on the weekend and sometimes I don't drink on the weekend. It also worries me that he could be fined or worse for possession of it. He argues that in 10 years it will be decriminalized because it is happening in many countries across the globe. I seen an article that in the future, if we were going to adopt decriminalization, Ireland would adopt a similar one to Portugal. The system is if a person is caught with the substance it is a civil matter, the person will be registered as a used and will need to attend a drugs counselling session at least once. But that isn't my main concern, everything is fine now that were young and don't have any heavy responsibilities, but what about when we have children, own a house together etc.As a mother I want to able to rush to my child's attention if they are in need or danger with a sober mind. That's not to say I won't ever drink, I will have the occasional drink. But I don't like the idea that he would be stoned every night, what if we needed to go the hospital all of sudden etc. Also when the children become teens, they will begin to cop on that there dad is out the back smoking when they're in bed or out for a walk every night. He won't be able to hide it from them. How will that influence them? Knowing that they're father smokes weed every night. What if we have a rough patch with little money and we have to cut down on our expenses, will he still pay 50 euro a week on it? Despite everything, I really do love him. I feel like I can be 100% myself around him and we have a great laugh together. I would be heartbroken to end it with him and It would break his heart too. Am I over analyzing the weed situation in the future or should I break it off before its too late? Link to comment
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