Was he flirting??? I think he was flirting lol

[Asb682]

There's this guy I know who I'm physically very attracted too, saw him at a bar Friday night and we said hi to each other, I was with my girlfriend and he was talking to an older lady who's a mutual friend of ours. So my girlfriend started talking to the older lady and I was taking my jacket off and could tell that this guy kept looking at me. I finally joked around with him and said "so you're not dancing tonight again", since whenever I see him at this place he's always sitting by the bar and never goes on the dance floor (which is odd only cause it's a dance social). Anyway he laughed and gently pulled my hair, and then showed me the video of his tenants apartment being flooded and then told me he can't stay long because he had to go home to take care of it. So then we kept kind of teasing/joking around with each other a bit and he kept trying to touch me, not in creepy way but in a playful flirty way. So I got the vibe that he was totally flirting, but nothing really came out of it since he left early, and he left without saying goodbye (but I was talking to another friend when he was leaving).

 

I'm not very good at flirting and I kinda want to keep this flirtation going in hopes he'll ask to hang out but I really don't know how lol. So any ideas on what I should do or say next time I see him? I don't want to be too forward and ask him out myself just yet.

[mike7788]

Why play games

 

 

From what you describe he's interested.

 

Why not suggest going to the bar together?

 

 

Do you have his contact info?

 

 

If someone is interested and you're over 21 years old they are very likely to be interested in a hangout.

 

If they aren't, and don't give a reschedule or a reasonable excuse(This needs to be coupled with a reschedule) then they most likely want nothing to do with it.

[Matt3939]

I'm pretty horrible at picking up cues myself I'm also a horrible dancer. You have seen this guy multiple times at that location. I'm gathering it's on a schedule. Next time I'd ask are you attending the next one. Or go for broke and ask so what else do you like to do? Or say this is fun but have you been to such and such im going and give him a venue. He should get the hint though he probably has already.

[trojan]

Im a guy. If he did all that stuff, he is interested.

He will not be weirded out if you ask him on a casual date, like coffee or whatever.

He will be flattered.

Sooner the better. Dont flirt like 20 times before you get around to asking him out for coffee, or it gets weird.

Next time you see him just say "Hey, want to go grab a cup of coffee sometime...how 'bout right now?"

[Wiseman2]

He may have a gf. But you can find out by suggesting a drink somewhere else sometime or suggest meeting someplace besides this hang out. Then exchange numbers. See what happens.

I kinda want to keep this flirtation going in hopes he'll ask to hang out but I really don't know how lol.