Instagram Connection

[DesignStudent]

So about 2 weeks ago I followed this guy on Instagram because I thought he was super cute, we are both gay, and we are both college freshmen in the same city. He followed me back pretty quickly and we both liked each other's photos. Thursday night, I decided to direct message him, which I had never done to a guy before, so I was pretty nervous. I basically introduced myself, mentioned that we are both in the same city, and that I thought he was cute. He messaged back a few hours later explaining he was busy. He said I was really cute and asked 'what's up which started the conversation. I responded and then he sent a medium sized message that continued the conversation and brought up questions that you would only be able to get by going through my pictures. He definitely sounded extremely interested in my life and myself. I replied with a slightly longer message, asking two questions regarding his major and what he was watching on Netflix. At this point it was 1:00 am, so I went to bed. I expected he might respond the next day. The next morning, I didn't wake up to any messages, which is fine because I figured he might be in class. The day passed and I never received any message. I thought he was just busy with class and school and not checking Instagram, until he posted a picture. I liked the picture and then sent a short message along the lines of "Hey, sorry to bother you Talking here is a pain, here's my number if you want to text instead. No worries if you're not interested!" That was Friday night and I haven't gotten a text or message since. I posted a picture on my Story last night that I saw he viewed today. (He still follows me on Instagram). I know it sounds ridiculous but even after that short conversation I really felt a connection and kind of have a crush on him. I'm worried I came on too strong with the long message and sending my number. I don't think I should message him again but I am really interested in him and I don't want to lose the connection. It's stupid but I can't stop thinking about him and the situation.

[Wiseman2]

Maybe he's with someone? Have you tried Grindr or Tinder or OKC for dating? IG may not reveal a person's real availability. Also you may see people on those sites you know and generally people messages so cold calls won't be so difficult.

 

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[DesignStudent]

Yeah I thought about that too but his photos didn't indicate a relationship and neither did the flirtation in his texts. You're right though, IG isn't always revealing of that. And as for the sites, I use Tinder but it's just harder to hold conversation. Maybe I'll come across him on Tinder. I don't know why I just can't stop thinking about him and I want to move on.

[anonomousguy12]

Yeah I thought about that too but his photos didn't indicate a relationship and neither did the flirtation in his texts. You're right though, IG isn't always revealing of that. And as for the sites, I use Tinder but it's just harder to hold conversation. Maybe I'll come across him on Tinder. I don't know why I just can't stop thinking about him and I want to move on.

 

If it's meant to work it will and he'll message you back. But don't message him again, if you look to eager it'll definitely be a turn off. You've left it up to him now.

[Reflections11]

Let it go. The ball is in his court, if he is interested, he knows how to hit you up. I would refrain from messaging him and try to stop obsessing over him (easier said than done i know lol)