She always invites her boyfriend to hangout

[sailormoo]

I'm 17 and my friend is 16, going on 17. We use to go to the same school but now we don't. But we always hang out dispite not going to the same school. We've known each other for 10+ years and have been friends that whole time. We're obnoxious and funny and fit into each other's lives so easily. Here's the thing: she's been dating this guy for about 6 months. He's a guy that's a year older than us and has always gone to our school but she just recently got an attraction to him (he's her complete opposite, but I guess opposites attract) and they started dating. I don't really like him, because when I went to their school I came out as transgender and him and his entire group of friends bullied me relentlessly until I finally got so many death threats I had to leave. She knew this, but claimed it was never him and just his friends. So, now the good stuff, every time we hang out, he comes. The tipping point for me was just today, when my friend and I were hanging out just laying in her bed and all the sudden the doorbell rings. We don't think anything of it and ignore it, then he texts her, saying he's there. She lets him in and he comes in and sees I'm there then says in an extremely snobby way "I'll be in the living room" I said "I'm going to just leave" and all she says is "okay" so I get my things together and as I'm about to walk out the door she says "you're really leaving?" I said yes and walked out. She didn't try to follow me or say anything. I was so enraged I texted her "you didn't care that I left" she texts back "it was so awkward I didn't know what to do" I said "you guys see each other every day and I come over only on weekends and he always comes. It's never just us" and all she says is "sorry" I know he doesn't like me because of the advice I give my friend. They have unprotected sex and I really encouraged her to make him wear protection. She did, and this made him mad so he doesn't really care for me. What pissed me off more, as I was walking out he smiles and says "see ya" like he won or something. I'm still extremely pissed off because we had plans to hang out and do things today, but now I'm at home doing nothing but being angry. I want to say something again but I know she'll show him the messages, as she always does. He tells her he doesn't want her hanging out with me. Please give me advice before I go off on her and say things I don't mean.

[Wiseman2]

Sorry to hear this. It it just a friendship? Good idea to leave if he shows up. Unfortunately you can't chose who she dates, but you can avoid him.

 

It would be best to distance yourself from this friend and start making new friends. Join some teen LGBT groups locally and online for support. I'm 17 and my friend is 16. she's been dating this guy for about 6 months. I don't really like him, because when I went to their school I came out as transgender and him and his entire group of friends bullied me relentlessly until I finally got so many death threats I had to leave. my friend and I were hanging out just laying in her bed.

[indea08]

I agree. Start finding different friends and phase this girl out of your life. Doesn't seem to be a very good friend anyways, and life's too short to put yourself through this.

[sailormoo]

Yes, it is absolutely just a friendship. And unfortunately I live in a really southern town and we have zero LGBT clubs or activities.

[agent1607307371]

Honestly, you need to start looking for other friends. She might mean well but she sounds like she's a bit weak (not using protection) and will always choose whoever she's dating. Plus she's dating him even knowing how he treated you - she's not a good friend.

 

Are you going to college? You'll be leaving school soon so focus on that.