I don't know what to do

[cheapet]

So there's this girl. She's my best friend and I think I like her. We first became friends 7 months ago after I got dumped and she was a friend that I made through random interactions. One month later I confessed to her but she believed that it wasn't really feelings and I believe it. They probably weren't genuine feelings. Even so, we were still good friends and got closer. Over the course of that 7 months, I got in a relationship and got heartbroken and she was there for me. She got in a relationship as well and it didn't turn out alright. We were there for each other. Now, I think I have fallen inlove with her but I don't know what to do. My friend talked to her about it but the answer about how she felt about me was never clear. It was never a direct shut down that it wasn't going to happen, but instead it was me learning that she had thought about the possibility of being with me. She doesn't know how the relationship might go because I am older than her and most of our friendship was talking online and she'd rather not lose me as a friend. How do you think she feels and what should I do?

[Wiseman2]

You would have to stop being a male girl-friend, crying on each other's shoulders about exes etc. and doing only online chatting and ask her out on a real date.

I am older than her and most of our friendship was talking online and she'd rather not lose me as a friend.

[pippy longstocking]

she'd rather not lose me as a friend.

 

when I have said this it has been my way of kindly saying , I view you as nothing more then a friend and don't want to take it further .

[holistic17]

Hello. Sorry to hear you're going through this confusion. From what you say, and I'm going to be honest with you, if she had romantic feelings for you, she would know and would not give mixed or indefinite answers. It sounds like you both have been in one or two unsuccessful relationships in the recent months. She may not be ready to go head first into another one. If I were in your situation, I would want to know where I stand. Sooner rather than later so I can move on. Ask her once more how she feels about you, but let his be the final time. If she doesn't feel the same, then you must accept this and either just have a friendship or close the door completely and move on to find someone who will love you equally.