Jealousy or valid feelings?

[bluechris]

I love my girlfriend very much and when it's just the two of us we click so well and can talk for a long time, well, she does most of the talking but still.

 

However, it seems whenever we're around other people, she barely speaks to me and it feels as if I'm just awkwardly floating about with her.

 

The main incident that's caused me to write this post occured yesterday at a party. I met her and some of her friends at the train station to walk her to the party but she never even spoke to me once and instead spoke to her friends the whole way there so.. why ask me to walk you then? 😅

 

So we get to the party, she barely speaks to me, but then I notice she's sitting alone looking sad so I go to her, she tells me what's up and I cheer her up but then after being sad and seemingly not wanting to talk, she gets up and spends the rest of the night talking to friends - guys and girls alike. So at this point I'm like .. she barely spoke to me for the rest of the night except for an occasional awkward kiss every now and then.

 

At this point, I don't know if this is just jealousy and that I should just let her be happy with other people or if it's a problem where she doesn't enjoy speaking to me that much anymore.

[Matt3939]

Some of what you wrote reminded me of an ex. Sounds like she likes you around but rather be social with everyone else. How is she if you cancel a plan that involves other people?

[Wiseman2]

It sounds like you tend to be more introverted, preferring one-on-one talks and she tends to be more extroverted preferring a lot of interaction with a lot of different people.

 

While at a party that's fine, she can't just sit in a corner and only talk to you. Let her make the rounds with people chatting,etc. and you do the same. Get up and start socializing with people and let her be free to do her thing. Don't expect babysitting, even if you are shy.

 

Secure couples usually do separate and mingle at parties, that's what parties and gathering are for. Savor your one-on-one time when you are alone together.

I met her and some of her friends at the train station to walk her to the party but she never even spoke to me once and instead spoke to her friends the whole way there so.

So we get to the party, she barely speaks to me, she gets up and spends the rest of the night talking to friends - guys and girls alike.

[nutbrownhare]

Secure couples usually do separate and mingle at parties, that's what parties and gathering are for. Savor your one-on-one time when you are alone together.

 

This ^^^. When my partner and I go to a party, we will hardly see each other for the rest of the evening. When we get together at the end, we've got lots of interesting stuff to share.

 

Use parties as an opportunity to get to know people you wouldn't have met otherwise.