Need advice

[Speedsterturtl]

I have a complicated situation. My boyfriend of 1 year his mom doesn't like me she comes to my boyfriends house every other weekend to visit his daughters. She spends the night and his mom asked him if when she came to spend the night that I go home. He told me that when his mom comes I can't come to his house. They want to spend family time. So every other weekend I am on my own. She only lives 30 minutes away so I don't know why she has to spend the night. Am I being selfish my feelings are hurt that he asked me to leave. Help is appreciated

[Seraphim]

Do you live there?

[Wiseman2]

Do something else those weekends. Is this the first time you dated a single dad? Do you have kids? You really don't have to hang out there all weekend every weekend do you? He does need quality time with his kids and they need time with their grandmother too.

 

It seems he's sticking with grandmas and the kids wishes. Can he go out on dates with you and ask her to babysit one night over the weekend? It's not about her or how far she lives, it's what he wants.

She spends the night and his mom asked him if when she came to spend the night that I go home. He told me that when his mom comes I can't come to his house. They want to spend family time. So every other weekend I am on my own.

[reinventmyself]

I have a complicated situation. My boyfriend of 1 year his mom doesn't like me she comes to my boyfriends house every other weekend to visit his daughters. She spends the night and his mom asked him if when she came to spend the night that I go home. He told me that when his mom comes I can't come to his house. They want to spend family time. So every other weekend I am on my own. She only lives 30 minutes away so I don't know why she has to spend the night. Am I being selfish my feelings are hurt that he asked me to leave. Help is appreciated

 

You mention 'she spends the night' Assuming that's so, that equals 2 nights a month, correct?

 

Is this the only reason why you tend to think she doesn't like you or are there other instances?

 

I personally don't think 2 nights a month is much to ask.

 

If she doesn't care for you for other reasons maybe you ought to start with that.