Havefaith2 Posted February 2, 2017 Share Posted February 2, 2017 Hello, I recently found out that my BF of 2.5 years was cheating on me with someone much younger. I was involved with his two daughters and his family and we did things together like most couples would. I confronted him about the cheating, and he denied it at first, he was trying to talk to me and get me back all week while he was posting "I love You" all over the other girls FB account. I confronted the girl, not to be crazy jealous but just to let her know that he was lying to her and to me. I found out today that it looks like they are still together, and I am trying to find a way to move on from this. It really hurts my self esteem, how I view myself as a person. I loved him and his daughters, I did a lot for them, brushed their hair, made them food, I was their "stepmom" so to speak. I just don't understand why he would do this. It angers me that they are still together, it makes me feel like I wasn't enough. I just don't understand how he could be so in love with her and sweep me under the rug like I was yesterdays news. I just don't know how to move on from this. Any advice would help. Link to comment
gebaird Posted February 2, 2017 Share Posted February 2, 2017 it makes me feel like I wasn't enough. I'm so sorry you were treated this way. You were honest and faithful; he was the one who violated your trust. He didn't cheat on you because you're not enough, he cheated because he is not enough. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted February 2, 2017 Share Posted February 2, 2017 Sorry to hear this. How old is he? How did you discover that? What was her response when you confronted her? All you can do is continue no contact delete and block both of them from all social media. In retrospect, what were the signs something was amiss? Try not to dwell on his daughters. Perhaps you got over-invested in the instant-family idea? I recently found out that my BF of 2.5 years was cheating on me. I confronted the girl, not to be crazy jealous but just to let her know that he was lying to her and to me. I found out today that it looks like they are still together. Link to comment
Havefaith2 Posted February 2, 2017 Author Share Posted February 2, 2017 He is actually 25, and I am older than him. I was hesitant to date him because of his age but I gave him a chance and I thought he was more mature because he has two daughters. She didn't respond to what I said, it looked as if she broke up with him but I guess they got back together. I just don't understand his choices, he wanted to do things with me and his children/family. Makes no sense, we were planning on going to disney with them next month. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted February 2, 2017 Share Posted February 2, 2017 How old is she? Perhaps your focus on the instant-family blinded you to his true feelings?He is actually 25, and I am older than him. She didn't respond to what I said Link to comment
DancingFool Posted February 2, 2017 Share Posted February 2, 2017 He is actually 25, and I am older than him. I was hesitant to date him because of his age but I gave him a chance and I thought he was more mature because he has two daughters. She didn't respond to what I said, it looked as if she broke up with him but I guess they got back together. I just don't understand his choices, he wanted to do things with me and his children/family. Makes no sense, we were planning on going to disney with them next month. Sweetie, he is not the first man on this planet who wants to have a reliable woman at home to keep house and raise his kids and to have side chics to boink at will. People like that only love one person on this planet - themselves. So please, don't kid yourself about his pronouncements of love to anyone. He only has one love and that's himself, the rest is just lip service and manipulation, so that you take care of his children, so that the other girl keeps boiking him, etc. You are lucky you found out and I'm proud of you for dumping him. It sucks when you've been fooled, but nobody is immune to that. Now that your eyes are open and you know the truth, let that anger and disgust with him help you move on that much faster. Also, remember that the next man is not your ex. Do not give this guy so much power over your life that he keeps ruining your future relationships because you've developed trust issues. He was scum, he is now gone. Block and delete him from everything. Don't keep checking social media to see what they are doing. I actually feel pity for that girl because what he did with her to you, he will do to her with someone else. He is the problem here, not you or any other woman. As you are healing and getting some distance from this, try to look back and see if you might have missed some clues, signs, something that he was a cheating scum. Link to comment
Matt3939 Posted February 2, 2017 Share Posted February 2, 2017 Dancing fool said it best. At least you know you can move on and find someone who has the same morals. Link to comment
Betterwithout Posted February 2, 2017 Share Posted February 2, 2017 I'm so sorry you were treated this way. You were honest and faithful; he was the one who violated your trust. He didn't cheat on you because you're not enough, he cheated because he is not enough. Couldn't have said it better myself. He is not enough. You are an awesome person to be the honest and faithful one. Take it as a learning experience and move on to some who treats you well. Link to comment
CandyKins Posted February 10, 2017 Share Posted February 10, 2017 I'm sorry I think it hit unlucky with the age thing. He doesn't appear interested and him and the girl you will never know may have been going behind your back for a very long time. I totally give you ample respect for looking after his children, respect yourself as well and leave. Xx Link to comment
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