coolgirl Posted February 1, 2017 Share Posted February 1, 2017 So here is a backstory on how things started between us. During the first day we started talking he tells me on how he tells me how he would like to find some one to hold and hug and someone who he can connect with emotionally, physically, and all the good stuff. I said yea I would like that too someday. He has stage 3 lung cancer. He kissed me once before on our first date but then he has a hard time breathing. So he's not in the best condition either. So I am trying hard not to take it hard either. But it's killing me inside not being able to kiss him or hug him or not being able to touch him. He's all messed up in the head and I'm trying to be there just as only as a friend and nothing more have gone out of my way to help hm out because he has no here. He's a really great guy. So wonderful to me. Makes me laugh. He tells me for me not to get attached to him. Which I'm fine with I don't want too. Because I don't want to get to close. I"m having fun hanging out with him and being around him. And that's what I want to enjoy. The more time I spend with him the more the more closer I get to him. And I don't want that right now to get to close to him. Were spending so much time together. Were practically together everyday. Which leaves me no breathing room. We don't have problems communicating. So were good on that part. I'm helping him as far as running his errands with him, because he barley speaks English. He's only in the state for 5 years. And I don't want to loose that opportunity if he ends up being that one. We tell each other we love each other but yet he does not want us to get attached. At the same time I want to be with him and see where it goes and not get too invested if I ever decide I want to get married I don't want it to be for the wrong reason where he gets his green card through me and takes off. It has happened to my friend before. And I don't want to go through that process of getting hurt all over again and if he ends up gong back to his home country. The not knowing is what's really getting to me. I don't want it to get to a point where it be hard for both of us to let go of if he ever decides to go back and he can't have any stress in his life due to his condition. He's going have to have another surgery. And I don't know to what point I can handle this. I'm not going to leave his side and leave him alone and let him be on his own not unless he wants me too. But yet I do have my concerns. I guess I'm asking for is advice. Thanks to anyone who's reading and responding ! Link to comment
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