Lovelorn2016 Posted February 1, 2017 Share Posted February 1, 2017 So, I woke up the other day and decided I'm up for a real challenge. In the past 5 months, I've dug myself deep into the dreaded friend zone. In the middle of this, I nearly dug myself out once, i was almost there, but fell right back in, deep in ****... So, it took me all this time to realize that I've been going about this the completely wrong way. Where was my common sense to ask for advice 5 months ago, when I actually had her reeled in!! Oh yeah, I came searching for advice when trouble started, but did I really listen? Nope. I was in denial.. I've finally accepted where I am at now, and realize this won't happen over night. I gotta take steps to dig myself out. It's not going to be easy, but I'm ready and prepared for the challenge. Now I'm ready to listen. So I've been reading these articles online, listening to audiobooks, and I've started to somewhat understand, but not quite there. I don't know all the rules yet. Any suggestions? Thanks! Link to comment
Almira23 Posted February 1, 2017 Share Posted February 1, 2017 You're going to have to give a bit of a background about the person you are trying to pursue and what your relationship is like before anyone can give you proper advice. Link to comment
Matt3939 Posted February 1, 2017 Share Posted February 1, 2017 A bit more info also why bother? It's happened twice Link to comment
Krankor Posted February 1, 2017 Share Posted February 1, 2017 Yeah, there are all kinds of gurus on YouTube and elsewhere who--when they aren't teaching you how to get your ex back--are ready to tell you these surefire ways to escape the friendzone. I don't know if any of it works, but it all seems pretty manipulative to me. I think the most honorable, respectable, and frankly masculine thing to do is to simply be direct, honest, and ask for what you want. "Look, I like you as more than a friend. I'd like to date you." Ask her out on a date and make your intentions clear. If she doesn't see you that way, fine. At least you'll have tried and while you'll be hurt and disappointed you can walk away with your head held high, knowing you went for what you wanted like a man rather than trying to "trick" her into feeling something for you like a weasel. Link to comment
Coolstorybro Posted February 1, 2017 Share Posted February 1, 2017 You're not an a stalker are you? Find someone else. Link to comment
DancingFool Posted February 1, 2017 Share Posted February 1, 2017 Yeah, there are all kinds of gurus on YouTube and elsewhere who--when they aren't teaching you how to get your ex back--are ready to tell you these surefire ways to escape the friendzone. I don't know if any of it works, but it all seems pretty manipulative to me. I think the most honorable, respectable, and frankly masculine thing to do is to simply be direct, honest, and ask for what you want. "Look, I like you as more than a friend. I'd like to date you." Ask her out on a date and make your intentions clear. If she doesn't see you that way, fine. At least you'll have tried and while you'll be hurt and disappointed you can walk away with your head held high, knowing you went for what you wanted like a man rather than trying to "trick" her into feeling something for you like a weasel. ^This post need to be pinned to the top of the forum and be required reading material for all!!!!!! Link to comment
katrina1980 Posted February 2, 2017 Share Posted February 2, 2017 I think the most honorable, respectable, and frankly masculine thing to do is to simply be direct, honest, and ask for what you want. "Look, I like you as more than a friend. I'd like to date you." Ask her out on a date and make your intentions clear. If she doesn't see you that way, fine. At least you'll have tried and while you'll be hurt and disappointed you can walk away with your head held high, knowing you went for what you wanted like a man rather than trying to "trick" her into feeling something for you like a weasel. ^This post need to be pinned to the top of the forum and be required reading material for all!!!!!! Amen. ..... Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted February 2, 2017 Share Posted February 2, 2017 She suggested to you that she's not over her son's father? It all started off while we were working together. For a couple days it is like we are best friends, texting a good conversation, snapchating back and forth, or just hanging out and having a good visit and talk. Then I said I still felt that certain kind of way about her, but hoped we could still be good friends. She replied later that we'd always be good friends. Link to comment
Sportster2005 Posted February 3, 2017 Share Posted February 3, 2017 Stay out of the friend zone, and you never have to escape it. You stay out by knowing what you want. If you want her, go for it. If she rejects you, too bad. That's better than becoming a friend when you want more. And worse case you end up in an unrequited love situation. Link to comment
JaggerJim Posted February 3, 2017 Share Posted February 3, 2017 Saying out of the friend zone is easy. Don't try to be there friend. You have create sexual tension and attraction. Don't exactly "Treat em mean, keep em Keen" but don't try and be their friends! You have to keep woman on their toes. Link to comment
UnchainedSoul Posted February 4, 2017 Share Posted February 4, 2017 Be a man. Grab your balls and go in! (Well don't literally grab your balls in front of her cause ew). Do what Krankor said. Assert yourself. I hate to say it but if you're a pu$$y about it, that's exactly what she will see you for. Not saying be a jerk, just make your intentions clear. No you-tube guru can give you self-confidence. Link to comment
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