dave_1966 Posted January 31, 2017 Share Posted January 31, 2017 A little while ago I met a beautiful woman, recently divorced, who after a couple of dates told me she was on the autistic spectrum and that I should be aware of this. I have accommodated this in to the dating, quite successfully I feel, and we've been getting along just fine by and large. She explained the reasons she divorced, loveless marriage with no sex, the usual. I've taken these on board, as well as I can. The thing is, I didn't realise how brutally honest people on the spectrum can be, and over the last few weeks she's painted a clear picture of a life of emotional and physical cheating on her ex husband describing nights away from home with various men she's met through different places and it's freaked me out a little. She's really sweet in so many ways, and the sex has been good. However, the other night she was telling me the things that could turn her on and suggested polyamory. I stopped her on that, and said no way, that I didn't want to pick up STDs. I consider polyamory to be a nicer way of saying s**t. She backtracked and said she was just fantasising, but so many of her stories and choice of male friends seem to show that she's already possibly been living this life and may still be doing so. I fear that her condition may limit her emotional maturity, and that I'm dealing with someone who basically thinks anything may be acceptable within a relationship. I'm going to see her shortly to discuss this, because I'm far from happy with this having explained from day 1 that I was monogamous and would have expected any exotic sexual tastes like this to have been mentioned very early. I also don't know how to word it to her in a appropriate way, dating her has been a huge learning curve because of the way you have to communicate with people on the spectrum and I don't want to give her a meltdown. I get the feeling she's going to tell me she is poly amorous, and if so I would never go near an autistic woman again because I didn't realise that the poly community has a massively high percentage of people with this condition. How would you deal with this? Link to comment
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