Should I hang in there or leave?

[Carter1]

Recently, my boyfriend of 8 months broke throngs off with me. We have a long distance relationship and he travels a lot for his job. He use to always tell me he loved me. A couple weeks ago he did a complete 1 80. He started to pull away and never text or call. I finally decided to see what was up. He tells me that it's not fair or realistic to continue this since we will never see each other this year. He tells me that he's not in love with me. He loves the person that I am by he has no feelings for me. That since he travels all the time he has to be alone because it's not fair for anyone to be with him. I always have in the back of my head that these are all excuses to push me away and make me hate him. He has been so damaged by his past relationships that he has closed himself off. He refuses to try to open up and says he doesn't want to open up to anyone. I just don't know what to do anymore to open his eyes that I'm not like all his past relationships that left him broken-hearted to where he feels he won't use his heart again in order to keep it from breaking.

[Wiseman2]

Sorry to hear this. They sound like very valid reasons, not excuses. LDRs are hard and not for everyone. This has nothing to do with fixing or healing him. It has to do with not being able to see each other and him losing interest.

 

Have you met in person? How often were you seeing each other? Does he have another relationship, wife/family, etc. in his other location? Perhaps she found out and he had to end it abruptly?

 

Go no contact and delete and block him to heal and move on. After dating only 8 mos, it's time to gut your losses . Why not ger on some dating apps and browse for local guys out there for you?

my boyfriend of 8 months broke throngs off with me. He tells me that it's not fair or realistic to continue this since we will never see each other this year. I just don't know what to do anymore to open his eyes

[ParisPaulette]

You leave. It's not even a year in and he wants out regardless of anything. You can't "prove away" issues that he might have, because they're his issues.

 

It doesn't even sound like he's shutting you out, because of past things. He's distancing himself, because he knows how hard long distance is going to be and he doesn't feel he can do it anymore. Lots of people are like that regardless of anything else.

 

As much as it hurts letting him go, focusing on your own healing, and moving forward with your life is the right choice, the only choice. You can't force another person to try when they don't want to do so. Go NC, focus on yourself, remember that you have an entire life not centered around only him - or at least you should have that, because depending on one person only for your happiness is not a good thing.

[Carter1]

Sorry to hear this. They sound like very valid reasons, not excuses. LDRs are hard and not for everyone. This has nothing to do with fixing or healing him. It has to do with not being able to see each other and him losing interest.

 

Have you met in person? How often were you seeing each other? Does he have another relationship, wife/family, etc. in his other location? Perhaps she found out and he had to end it abruptly?

 

Go no contact and delete and block him to heal and move on. After dating only 8 mos, it's time to gut your losses . Why not ger on some dating apps and browse for local guys out there for you?

 

Yes we met almost 2 years ago. We managed to see each other every 4-5 weeks. He is single and he tells me now he will never be with anyone else because he doesn't want to open his heart up to anyone.