Why is she still jealous?

[Jonathan18]

Hello everyone!

 

Just a quick question.. why is my ex girlfriend still jealous?

 

Info:

 

I'm 18 years old and my 3 year long relationship with my ex ended a month ago. This was both our first relationship.

 

She ended it because she ''needed to work on herself''. She was busy all the time and when we were together she always felt tired. She also was a bit depressed, so out of the blue she told me it's over.

 

Also, she cheated on me 1 year ago (no sex, only kissing and texting) and she told me she can't forgive herself and she thinks I don't trust her and all that.

 

After keeping in touch and talking occasionally, for a month now, I asked her multiple times: ''IF you're ready for a relationship again, will it be me or someone else?''. She always replied with: ''I don't know, I can't look in the future''.

 

So after asking this multiple times, on a night out in the club (I was a bit drunk, she wasn't), she finally gave me an answer to the question. ''No, we will never be together anymore''. Immediately after she said this I told her a lie and said: ''Ohh, so it's okay I talk to this girl?'' and left to let her mind go crazy. (I have no clue why I said this haha, maybe it was my intuition).

 

A day later I made a fake instagram account and some whatsapp chats to make it look legit, and pretend I was talking to this ''girl'', because I KNEW she would text me, asking about who this girl is etc. and... it happened. She was like who is it? why are you guys texting each other blabla blaaa..

 

Then two days later (right now), she texted me again and asked me if I was talking to her, she seemed just sooo jealous. But why is she doing this if she told me there is no future for us anymore?

 

She now blocked me on whatsapp, instagram, snapchat just everything, with the last text: ''I'm going to block you now, go text with her and all that. Have a nice life!''.

 

I told her multiple times I want her and ONLY her, and that I want to work on everything, but she didn't want it anymore and now she is jealous af? Why?

 

Thanks everyone!

[gebaird]

Maybe she is jealous because you are manipulating her into being jealous. Sounds like it got her attention but then backfired.

 

I'd recommend looking for a relationship where you don't have to play games like this.

[Wiseman2]

Sorry but playing games backfired.

She now blocked me on whatsapp, instagram, snapchat just everything, with the last text: ''I'm going to block you now, go text with her and all that. Have a nice life!''.

]

[ale2010]

She feels jealous because she obviously still cares and loves you but she need time for her self! Try to surprise her with some flowers and tell her how much you want her in your life and that you love her !! And stop with the games !!

[Frenchy37]

Hi there. 18 years old jeez. Yea you're young in the world of dating. Stop playing games. I know it'll be hard not to at your age, some reason at younger ages we're programmed to be evasive.

 

Don't go out to make her jealous, regardless of her reaction, whatever it may be, it is bad on you as a person because you're deliberately seeking a response from her.

 

What to do now, be open and honest with her. I would even tell her about the fake account, APOLOGIZE TO HER. She is emotional, therefore her mind is going back and forth, explaining why she is giving you mixed signals. Next time you get a chance (without aggressively approaching her), calmly ask her if you can talk, be direct and kind. Tell her you have something to confess. Explain the fake account, apologize and promise no more games from your end.

 

That is the mature thing to do.

[Vastaux]

Hi there. 18 years old jeez. Yea you're young in the world of dating. Stop playing games. I know it'll be hard not to at your age, some reason at younger ages we're programmed to be evasive.

 

Don't go out to make her jealous, regardless of her reaction, whatever it may be, it is bad on you as a person because you're deliberately seeking a response from her.

 

What to do now, be open and honest with her. I would even tell her about the fake account, APOLOGIZE TO HER. She is emotional, therefore her mind is going back and forth, explaining why she is giving you mixed signals. Next time you get a chance (without aggressively approaching her), calmly ask her if you can talk, be direct and kind. Tell her you have something to confess. Explain the fake account, apologize and promise no more games from your end.

 

That is the mature thing to do.

I disagree, yes what he's done is wrong but her reaction is also. What's the point in telling her about the lie as when it comes down to it and he does find someone else she's going to react the same way anyway. It's a classic case of she doesn't want him but doesn't want anyone else to have him.

 

If I was the OP I'd just let it die, let her go off and do her own thing. You two are both young. It's time to move on.