How I feel right now. Started hanging out with somebody new.

[lillorenzo23]

So, it's been over two months since my breakup, and over 30 days of NC.

 

Two months ago, I was an absolute wreck. Couldn't eat. Couldn't sleep. Thought my world was over. I couldn't even look at somebody else and feel like I'll ever think anybody else is even attractive, let alone 'like' or 'love' them.

 

I started reading self-help books. I watched some videos online. I started going to the gym regularly. I spend a decent amount of time with my friends and family. I even made some new friends along the way. I tried a few new things. Went to a couple concerts and events. I started talking to a therapist. I leaned on the Enotalone community.

 

Within the past few weeks, I've started to hurt less. I've even started to think about him less. I'm not going to say that I'm 'over it', because I think when you give somebody your heart 100%, you never get that all back. You just learn to live with it, and eventually it stops hurting. There's still times I think about a certain memory or situation, and I get a little pain in my heart. Then there's others where I think about it, and it doesn't really hurt that bad. I've done a lot of thinking about what was wrong, and the things I shouldn't have dealt with. I also looked at what I want out of a relationship, and if those things were present in the one I had. I deserve way better than that.

 

I started talking to a few people, just to make new connections. I did so without the expectation of finding a relationship, and I'm 100% not looking for a hookup. I made that very clear to the people that I made contact with, and a few respected that. Basically, I'm looking for new people to talk to, hang out with, get to know, and build a friendship. If that friendship turns into more, than I'm not opposed to it. I'm also not trying to force it. So one person in particular seemed to be looking for something similar. We've hung out a few times over the past two weeks, and we've been texting a decent amount.

 

I'm not saying I'm going to date this guy, or that it will even get to that point, but it's neat because he is nothing like my ex, at all. To be honest, it isn't a bad thing. Two months ago, I thought I would never be happy with anybody else because there's no guy out there like him. Now, I kinda realized they don't have to be like him. As a matter of fact, it's probably better if they aren't. Obviously in two weeks time, I'm not falling for this guy head over heals. I'm going to continue to build a friendship, and like I said...if it turns into more, then so be it. But, it is refreshing to see that I can have some sort of feelings for somebody...and they don't have to be just like what I lost. Just felt like putting that out there.

[Wiseman2]

Excellent you're out meeting different people. It really helps with perspective, doesn't it?

Two months ago, I thought I would never be happy with anybody else because there's no guy out there like him. Now, I kinda realized they don't have to be like him. As a matter of fact, it's probably better if they aren't.

[Ksol9]

Sounds like you're on the right track!

 

Good luck!

[Vivi0476]

Gosh, this is a wonderful post full of hope and anticipation for the future

[Crystal Clear2]

This sounds fantastic. All the best to you. ☺

[J Miracle]

Good for you! After hearing about everybody's losses, its good to hear about a win