I believe my son may be gay

[A none mouse]

We really need to know age here ....because if he is still a little boy you simply do nothing ..... if he is a teen then a chat to let him know you support whoever he is would be nice for you both .

 

As a gay teen I know how Much a parents help is needed. Be supportive.

[Unreasonable]

I wouldn't read too much into somebody who is prepubescent to be honest. Some people take a long time to come into their sexuality. Just let the kid be a kid and be supportive.

 

Just FYI, I have a nephew, whom his ENTIRE family assumed he was gay even from a small child. Loved ALL the girly stuff. He's in his 20s now and, nope. Not gay. Being effeminate does not mean you're automatically gay.

 

But really, these days, does it even matter?

[Batya33]

I wouldn't read too much into somebody who is prepubescent to be honest. Some people take a long time to come into their sexuality. Just let the kid be a kid and be supportive.

 

Just FYI, I have a nephew, whom his ENTIRE family assumed he was gay even from a small child. Loved ALL the girly stuff. He's in his 20s now and, nope. Not gay. Being effeminate does not mean you're automatically gay.

 

But really, these days, does it even matter?

 

I have an acquaintance who has a son who is now 4. At 18 months old he chose his twin sister's clothes and from then on he seemed to prefer girls' clothing meaning dresses, skirts and "girl" colors. Thing is, his mother encouraged it and would choose those clothes for him as well -and at that age who knows why he chose that/if he knew what he was choosing. Now he's 4 and he says he's a boy, has a boy's haircut, and typically wears girls' clothing including for activities like skating. He gets upset when people assume he is a girl. The mother wrings her hands over how to react to those comments and what to tell him. He tells people "I am a boy".

 

So my point is, at least in that situation -is it the child showing signs of preferring to dress like a girl or is it a parent who leapt on her child's preferences when he was a toddler (and of course his twin sister's clothing was easily accessible)? And does it matter? I think so - why burden a small child with having to explain what gender he is because his mother affirmatively encouraged him to dress like a girl?