Seanr Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 Hi all I am new to this site. I split with my partner in October. She is 40, I am 42. We have had an on off relationship for over 8 years. She had a daughter when I met her and we went on to have a little boy together. I left as she kept throwing me out. She would say horrible things and if I replied to any of them she would rattle off another ten insults. She became physically abusive, breaking my possessions, hitting her daughter and attacking me (an attack that our little boy was caught up in and became distressed). To my dismay after that attack she blamed it all on me for something I said before the attack began. I also found out that she lied to me on two major issues. She was never unfaithful and I saw many great qualities in her. But the lying & domestic violence were scary. I miss her a lot. I spent Xmas more or less alone apart from seeing our son and I know she reacts by going to dating sites, getting out on the town. I miss her a lot. I have had a number of girlfriends in the past but none seem like her. I think she has borderline personality disorder as her moods are crazy and she will unleash on me & expect no reaction back. Anyone ever been in a situation like this? I would like to move on and I have a vision of what I want from life after her. But sometimes I look at myself and say 'who would want you?' which is probably one of the outcomes of an abusive relationship? Before I met her I was with another lady for a long time but we fizzled out knowing it wasn't right for us. That Lady & I are still friends and I walked away with my confidence intact. Totally different story now. Link to comment
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