FHRITP Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 I went on a date whit this girl on a friday, the date went greath, the day after she txt me some random stuff we chitchat a bit and I took the chance and asked when she was free to go out again, she quickly answered with the days and we made a definate date for thursday 8pm, Thursday came and (acting out of fear) at noon i sent her a txt with the objective of reminde her of the upcoming date, she reply a bit and that was that. About 2 hours prior to the date she txt me that she was jammed with some work stuff (I felt that it was some BS excuse since she had thursday and Friday off work). I assumed she just didn't wanted to see me anymore, but then she asked me if a was free next monday and if we could meet at her place after work at 10pm (she exits work at 9pm), her parents are leaving the town and she is supposed to be by herself (or so she says). My questions is: is she flaking? The confirmation txt on thursday did any damage for her to back off? Should I confirm the date next monday or just show up at her place? How should I do it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gebaird Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 I'd just show up. It's early enough in the relationship that it's probably hard to discern between lame excuses and legitimate reasons. Give her the benefit of the doubt until you get to know her better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J Miracle Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 Confirming a date is all good. Your a grown man and your time shan't be wasted, so you confirm. Shouldn't scare anybody away. And if she countered with a new offer when backing out of thursday, than she didn't flake. She reschdleduled. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
notalady Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 Seems odd that for a second date, she wants you, a stranger to come over to her place late at night. And telling you that her parents are out of town and she's all by herself. Either she's looking for casual hook up or she's up to no good (it's not only women who are at risk of stranger danger when it comes to online dating). I'd be very suspicious after her last story didn't match up (ie she must have told you she's not working on Thursday Friday, then changed the story). I would stick to an outside date if you must go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FHRITP Posted January 22, 2017 Author Share Posted January 22, 2017 She isn't a stranger, we were colleague buddies a few years ago, and we happened to meet again a couple weeks ago Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeartGoesOn Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 I think it's a good sign that she re-scheduled, therefore I wouldn't call it flaking. However, "NAL" brought up a good point as to keeping the second date in public. Even though you're a man, there are a number of things that could occur this early on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wiseman2 Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 Sounds like she wants to hookup while her parents are away. Call to confirm that day. she asked me if a was free next monday and if we could meet at her place after work at 10pm her parents are leaving the town and she is supposed to be by herself Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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