chikokevo Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 Hey guys, I screwed up pretty bad... I have this female friend. Shes like a sister to me, and have a very sensitive feelings, animal lover. SO... I pm`d her, that today I saw a roadkill dog, with his friend, this other dog, sitting by his side and grieving. She replied: dont do that to me, don`t start a conversation like that, it brings tears to my eyes, etc. Then I thought it would be pretty funny, to tell her another story, about a guy who road killed a fox, and put it outta its misery with a fire extiguisher, because he felt sorry for the fox. All of my other friends laughed at this story, and I thought that would be funny for her also... what an idiot right? So anyway,as a result, she seems pissed pretty bad. Is there anyway i can un the situation???? Link to comment
greta96 Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 Whenever tempted to make a joke, find some topics that are actually funny? Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 Let her cool off. then without rationalizing defending yourself, or claiming everyone else thinks it's funny, etc. offer an sincere apology. Tell her is was insensitive and foolish and leave it at that. Question: Why taunt your "friends"? I have this female friend. Shes like a sister to me, and have a very sensitive feelings, animal lover. Then I thought it would be pretty funny, to tell her another story, about a guy who road killed a fox, and put it outta its misery with a fire extiguisher, because he felt sorry for the fox. Link to comment
ParisPaulette Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 Apologize profusely, and examine why you seem to have a bit of a sadistic streak. Why in hello dolly would anyone find having to put a suffering animal out of its misery with a fire extinguisher or anything else for that matter funny? Where is the humor in any of that???? Nope, serious animal lover here. These stories are horrible, totally designed to bring people down. Did you even stop to help the dogs? Did anyone? Gah, now I'm bummed. You can't spring bad news on people and expect them to be happy about it. Learn from this to be a bit more discerning in what you share. And next time you see animals in trouble, stop and help them. That would have been a worthy story to share with her, how you stopped and alerted authorities, found the dogs' owner, got the one dog to safety etc. Do you see the difference there? It has to do with empathy and understanding what to share with someone or not. And the appropriateness of emotions over what's happened. The fox was definitely not a funny story by anyone's standards. Link to comment
RainyCoast Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 reading about the grieving dog and poor fox makes me friggin want to cry. how anyone would find it funny is beyond me. google some clean jokes and opening lines. jeezus. Link to comment
SherrySher Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 Something seriously wrong with people's heads who would laugh over a living creature suffering in any form. That turns my stomach and makes me wonder how effed our society really is becoming. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 As an animal lover, I find that to be pathetic, cruel, heartless etc, etc, etc. Sorry, but you have some growing up to do.... Link to comment
Viceroy Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 Sorry, that kind of humor isn't really humor you should share with friends, unless you find the same kind of things funny. Sharing that with an animal lover is a bit insensitive, yes? Just apologize, and let her know it's just a stupid joke, and you realize it's wrong to bring up etc.... Link to comment
browneyedgirl36 Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 You can try apologizing, but don't be surprised if you receive a VERY frosty reception. If I were you, I would apologize, perhaps via text -- because I doubt she'll pick up the phone if you call. Apologize sincerely for being insensitive. Do NOT say something like "I'm sorry that you were upset" because that places responsibility on her, when really, your "joke" is the problem. Something to consider: Is there a particular reason you tell these kinds of "jokes"? (I put that in quotes because I really don't think joking about dead animals is funny at ALL, and I wonder what else you might find funny that would be distasteful to many people). And, knowing how much your friend loves animals, why on earth would you think it was funny/fun to bring this kind of thing up? I have to wonder if, at least subconsciously, you did it on purpose to get a strong response from her. I don't know, but these are just things to consider -- your own motives and intentions. This friendship could end because of this, but perhaps looking at your own motives and intentions will help you with future friendships and relationships. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 Not humour dude. Rather disgusting. You would not be my friend anymore. I adore animals. Ugh! Both stories actually make me angry that humans are so revolting harming animals. Link to comment
milly007 Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 The fact that someone would feel the need to share these stories with me would make me question my relationship with them. I wouldn't want to hear about either story (especially as an animal lover) and would not find the fox story funny at all. The fact that anyone would find it funny is extremely disturbing, and I would think that anyone who finds it funny needs to get their head examined by a licensed professional. Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 REALLYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY glad I read that ...not how do you make it up you ask ? well you arn't real enough to bother with , because if you meant it you wouldn't have gone on to tell her that story after she just told you NOT to ! Link to comment
agent1607307371 Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 A screw-up's an accident. You did this deliberately. You're going to have to apologise and really mean it. Link to comment
Capttrae Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 I'm a hunter and there's nothing I'd rather be doing than hunting, and I'm wondering how you thought any of that is remotely funny. Link to comment
BritterSweet Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 Seconding what agent said. Part of having a good sense of humor and telling good jokes is knowing your audience. You knew she doesn't like that kind of subject, and chose to tell her anyway. If you apologize to her, it must be for what YOU did, not for how SHE felt. And I like some dark humor once in a while, but even I don't know how what you described would be funny in any way. It's not even a joke, it's just a flat out depressing story. Link to comment
chikokevo Posted January 22, 2017 Author Share Posted January 22, 2017 Yeah i mean I am animal lover myself, and I always find animal cruelty too distrurbing. But the situational decision of this guy is pretty damn stupid as its is pretty funny. I mean I would`nt imagine my self doing it or even getting an idea like that. Its just that when it comes to imagination, some people have wierd ass decisions to make... Link to comment
Capttrae Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 The only positive thing I can really see is the guy that finished the fox off did a good thing. No point in lettin it suffer. Go ahead and put it out of its misery Link to comment
chikokevo Posted January 22, 2017 Author Share Posted January 22, 2017 I mean, you can judge me as much as you want, I know my guilt and I aint denying it. Its just that when I was younger, I was too inexperienced and ventured into wrong side of the internet. One part of it was Yulin Festival. After seeing all that nightmarish stuff, I dont find road killed fox or dog too disturbing anymore. I mean most of the road killed animals are instantly killed, and let`s face it: animals are stupid enough to get killed in roads. All of you cryers here, should know one thing: there are worst cases of animal death than road kill... Link to comment
journeynow Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 Is there anyway i can un the situation???? Donate to her favorite cause, one that rescues or cares for animals. You can't undo the past, but you can move forward with good intentions and positive action. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 I mean most of the road killed animals are instantly killed, and let`s face it: animals are stupid enough to get killed in roads. I think we've heard enough. Thread closed. Link to comment
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