silently Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 It's so unfair...he's the one who hurt me, dragged me through the dirt, and lead me on yet he gets to move on after 3 months and is already in a new relationship while 5 months later I still get choked up from time to time when I think about him late at night. I can't even imagine dating at this point...if anything I'd like to take a year to myself to focus on college & so I'm complely healed before getting involved with anyone else. It just hurts seeing an ex move on so much quicker than you especially when it seems they don't deserve to after everything they put you through. Sorry this isn't much of a question, more so a rant but maybe others can relate to how I'm feeling. Link to comment
Tinkyonks Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 yeah its painful, but you know what, if he put you through pain then what are you grieving? good hes moved on because then hes not there to give you more pain. no he doesnt deserve to be happy because he caused you pain but im guessing you wouldnt be able to live with yourself if you strung him up and removed all his fingernails lol... so just let it go, he still has to live with being an idioit... you dont anymore, so the way i see it youre the winner here. taking time for yourself is much more rewarding than a rebound relationship and all the stress it brings... so keep going, keep ranting, but try to stop grieving what 'might have been' and let that go, because that isnt real, its just hopes and dreams. x Link to comment
Hollyj Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 Why are you still following this guy???? Have you blocked him yet?? It seems that are creating unnecessary drama for yourself - read your other threads. Move on!!! Link to comment
Clio Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 He gets to move on so easily because he is not stuck in the past. You on the other hand keep yourself stuck in the past because you refuse to accept that it's over and you keep monitoring his moves when in reality they have nothing to do with you anymore. Stop stalking. Block all channels of new iformation. Accept it's over. Start building a new life for yourself and in time you WILL get your happy ending. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 Because he's making better choices by moving on after almost half a year. He shouldn't even be on your mind and you should have been at least dating by now. 5 months later I still get choked up from time to time when I think about him late at night. Link to comment
AE1985 Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 Its not fair and she obviously really loved him. my ex gf has been gone only a week and is happily moving on. 3 weeks ago we were talking future now im talking depression Link to comment
Quidam Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 He gets to move on so easily because he is not stuck in the past. You on the other hand keep yourself stuck in the past because you refuse to accept that it's over and you keep monitoring his moves when in reality they have nothing to do with you anymore. Stop stalking. Block all channels of new iformation. Accept it's over. Start building a new life for yourself and in time you WILL get your happy ending. careful here ... I'm 15 months out of a relationship and still struggling daily, in my case she dragged me into hopes and false promesses for a full year and we also have a daughter meaning that we will be bonded for life. Sometimes moving on is hard simply because other path are also has fully painful than living in ''the past'' Link to comment
Clio Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 careful here ... I'm 15 months out of a relationship and still struggling daily, in my case she dragged me into hopes and false promesses for a full year and we also have a daughter meaning that we will be bonded for life. Sometimes moving on is hard simply because other path are also has fully painful than living in ''the past'' Sorry to hear that. However, I consider your situation very different to the OP's. Having a child together raises the stakes and means indeed that you are bonded for life and can never put your ex totally in the past as you have to have contact due to the child. What I wrote to the OP I would not write for a situation like yours. The OP has no children with her ex , unless I am missing something. Monitoring her ex's activities are like shooting herself on the foot. Link to comment
outofleft Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 Because he's making better choices by moving on after almost half a year. He shouldn't even be on your mind and you should have been at least dating by now. What a helpful comment! Just get over it because he shouldn't be on her mind! WOW HER PROBLEMS ARE ALL SOLVED Link to comment
Hurtandlost17 Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 It's so unfair...he's the one who hurt me, dragged me through the dirt, and lead me on yet he gets to move on after 3 months and is already in a new relationship while 5 months later I still get choked up from time to time when I think about him late at night. I can't even imagine dating at this point...if anything I'd like to take a year to myself to focus on college & so I'm complely healed before getting involved with anyone else. It just hurts seeing an ex move on so much quicker than you especially when it seems they don't deserve to after everything they put you through. Sorry this isn't much of a question, more so a rant but maybe others can relate to how I'm feeling. Im sorry your going through this. Im also going through a similar situation right now. Its so painful, confusing. Im really lost and so angry. Be well Link to comment
prit Posted January 24, 2017 Share Posted January 24, 2017 Hope it gets better in time. Well that's what I'm waiting for myself. I got dumped so bad that it's made me so bitter. Link to comment
silently Posted January 30, 2017 Author Share Posted January 30, 2017 Why are you still following this guy???? Have you blocked him yet?? It seems that are creating unnecessary drama for yourself - read your other threads. Move on!!! Yes, I blocked him from everything a couple months ago. Link to comment
silently Posted January 30, 2017 Author Share Posted January 30, 2017 Because he's making better choices by moving on after almost half a year. He shouldn't even be on your mind and you should have been at least dating by now. Why should I be dating by now? I don't want to be in another relationship, as I stated in my post - I'd rather focus on more important things. Besides, this was my first serious relationship I'd ever been in and I've never been through this before. It's not that easy for me to move on just like that. Half a year isn't that long...I know it takes some people years. Link to comment
silently Posted January 30, 2017 Author Share Posted January 30, 2017 Its not fair and she obviously really loved him. my ex gf has been gone only a week and is happily moving on. 3 weeks ago we were talking future now im talking depression I'm sorry to hear that): I know it sucks, but it does get easier with time. Link to comment
silently Posted January 30, 2017 Author Share Posted January 30, 2017 Sorry to hear that. However, I consider your situation very different to the OP's. Having a child together raises the stakes and means indeed that you are bonded for life and can never put your ex totally in the past as you have to have contact due to the child. What I wrote to the OP I would not write for a situation like yours. The OP has no children with her ex , unless I am missing something. Monitoring her ex's activities are like shooting herself on the foot. I'm actually not moderating his activity. I've had him blocked on everything for 2 months now, but my friends and family still follow him so recently they'd told me about something he'd posted so it got me thinking about him again (and yes I told them to not mention him to me anymore as it hurts my healing process) Link to comment
silently Posted January 30, 2017 Author Share Posted January 30, 2017 Im sorry your going through this. Im also going through a similar situation right now. Its so painful, confusing. Im really lost and so angry. Be well Sorry to hear that...It is very painful, but it will get better with time. I'm still struggling sometimes but it's been so much easier. You be well too! Link to comment
silently Posted January 30, 2017 Author Share Posted January 30, 2017 Hope it gets better in time. Well that's what I'm waiting for myself. I got dumped so bad that it's made me so bitter. Thank you. I'm sorry you're going through something similar. Stay strong. Link to comment
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