layla21 Posted January 19, 2017 Share Posted January 19, 2017 Hi all, Long story short: I have been in a lovely and passionate LDR with my ex boyfriend of 1,5yr. We were in so many ways each other's first and as cheesy it may sound we claimed it was our first true love. Of course we had our up and down's but months before the breakup, I felt we were disconnecting emotionally -he was always busy and didnt make an effort for skype dates. I felt for granted but as I felt we argued already too much, I rather kept it to myself. Nevertheless, all was okay until he went on a wedding and vanished again for 5 days without telling me anything. Even a day afterwards, no messages or updates, I admit I had some personal issues as well and felt lonely which led to me outburst. I messaged him being all sarcastic and passive agressive which I am very ashamed of. Sure, I have used some words, I never used before but it all came out that after all these months of telling him and begging him to change something about the circumstances, to truly make a effort. He did but it was not enough. But I guess its out of sight, out of mind. After this incident, he broke up with me telling me even that he cannot imagine 'living with me under a roof' and marriage is out of sight as well. I understood. However, in the conversation 1 week after the split, where I pathetically asked him to reconsider, he told me about a girl he is currently hanging out with a lot and there might be something going on later. He does not want me to wait and be a backup and that I should move on. Right now, I am trying a complete NC. I am feeling 'better' but I do still miss him and I would consider taking him back if he wants to try. Even as a friend but it would take so much effort and I dont know if it is worth it -I dont get it how you can tell your ex after a week who is clearly upset and cried that there might be someone else? I felt like there is no emphathy at all and he changed, that we had was forgotten and I am worthless, replaceable, disposable. Indeed, he has lost my respect and trust - as a possible friend (he wants it) or remotely lover again. Not because of anger or sadness but out of decency because I never would have done it to him but try to help him to cope if I were the dumper. But it is a pity after everything we have been through. I know time will heal wounds and I might let all go but I can hardly forget when someone is treating me this low. Does anyone has the same experience? Any advice on how to move on with him but trying to overcome those feelings of his changed image I have and also his possible rebound/GIGS issue? I appreciate all, thanks! Link to comment
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