What do i do?

[Jaybrizzle]

Ok do this may seem like a lot but I really need some advice...I've been seeing this girl about 2 years...we got along she had her life I had mine..she has 2 boys and I have two young children..we used to hang out a lot but with me working full time and her in school and working we couldn't spend every second with each other ..about 6 months ago I noticed on her tablet that she was sexting with a young guy next door ..I confronted her she cried and begged me not to go and I feel like a sucker now but I stayed...it's been bothering me so much and she claimed nothing would happen but I had a hard time believing her..she's 41 and suffers from

Severe anxiety and maybe depression ..I will be honest I put a wall up after that cuz I wasn't sure what was gonna happen and she said I pushed her away but st the same time I felt like she was pushing me away..I love her so much and she said she loved me with everything she has..her little guy never gave us much time alone but that was something I could deal with ..we've had this problem before every once in awhile she has a breakdown ..her kids are very badly behaved and she's in school and trying to work that now she says she needs space ..I tell her I love her and she asks me to stop but she said I can tell her I love her but she won't say it back and she says she can't handle the texts and needs space ..I'm trying to hard to do this plz help!

[Wiseman2]

Sorry to hear this. all you can do is lay back and give her space. Don't do any convincing, begging, fixing, etc. Let her process this in her own time.

 

How did she explain this sexing?

..about 6 months ago I noticed on her tablet that she was sexting with a young guy next door now she says she needs space ..I tell her I love her and she asks me to stop but she said I can tell her I love her but she won't say it back and she says she can't handle the texts and needs space

[Jaybrizzle]

She said it was stupid she knows she said she makes bad choices but asked me not to leave her

[OhVicky]

honestly .. I suggest you give her space and what she is asking of you... I don't know what her reasons are for wanting that... but, I suggest you let her be, it might be painful to you right about now and perfectly understandable, but you will only hurt yourself more if you keep insisting, I suggest that if you did all possibilities to stay and make her change her mind and tried until you no longer can, then let her be. once you are no longer insisting or no longer in the picture, it is then when we realize if it was the right thing to do, or not.