geebee Posted January 18, 2017 Share Posted January 18, 2017 So about 1.5months ago I met this guy on Tinder and we hit it off instantly. He's 27 and I'm 24. We have similar interests and we both are active dancers, so he persuaded me to go for the same class as him. The first time I appeared at the dance class his friends kept nudging him and looking at me, but we didn't say hi as I was with my friends while he was always with his and we're both.. kinda shy. We Whatsapp each other everyday and things were going really good, but our schedules keep clashing due to our commitments in both work and dance (he has some days where he works till 11pm or so, especially on festive periods) so we've only been able to meet up once, plus I was overseas for 3 weeks after. I guess our first meetup went well as he suggested we go for ice-cream after. He then walked me to the subway station before going back for dance training (he has a dance production coming up in about a month). Though here's the thing, I've been get insecure of late as he takes a couple of hours to reply my messages. I'm trying to play it cool but I can't help but feel that he seems to be drifting/pulling away. Not sure if this is a huge factor, but every alternate day or so while texting he would say things like "Please come and save me from workkkk ugh I can't feel my brain anymore T_T" or "I'm dying at work!!!!!!" In the past he'd explain before disappearing for hours, like telling me "Ah the paperwork has come in, I'll talk to you later okay?" and usually apologizing when he returns. Nowadays he doesn't do that, but he does say things like "PHEW FINALLY FREE FROM WORK. I DIED OUT THERE. Are you still at work too?" Making plans for our second meetup has been difficult too, as I've learnt that with him, I can't ask too many questions at one go – he seems to be blur and all and will only answer the last question or so hahaha. Plus I've mentioned earlier, we both have conflicting schedules. I'm usually free on the evenings he has trainings after work, and he's usually free on the evenings I'm working. for a while I thought he wasn't interested in meeting anymore, but he told me "I'll always make time because it's you, we just have to settle on a day and I'll make time!" good thing is we finally settled on a day and are meeting following week. I'm trying not to be too demanding as it's only been 1.5mths and I don't expect someone who's only known me for such a short duration to rearrange his whole life for me. But at the same time part of me feels that it's been 1.5mths and it seems that nothing's really happening anymore. It's been increasingly hard to play it cool as people often tell me conflicting advice, such as "If he were really interested he would find time for you regardless of how busy he is." or "I'm guessing he's really just forgetful, he seems awfully busy. Give him the benefit of doubt and ride this out." and sometimes this little voice in my head goes "Maybe he really isn't interested y'know? Why waste your time?" Even though I'm pretty busy myself, half the time I wonder about how he's doing and all. Any advice on how to feel less insecure or viewpoints about my situation would be great! I'm pretty sure my insecurities will seep out into my interactions with him Link to comment
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