Lyoness Posted January 15, 2017 Share Posted January 15, 2017 I have been with my husband for 10yrs. We've been married for 5. We have three children together. I got pregnant at age 15, after we had only been dating for a couple months. He was 18 at the time. We moved in together my Junior year of high school. Ever since then, I have been in charge of everything in our daily lives. He got a job at a fast food restaurant when our first child was still an infant and he's worked that same job for almost 9yrs now. It pays the bills for the most part, but I still have to work full time to compensate. Besides working, my husband contributes absolutely nothing else. He doesn't even have his drivers license! He won't even get a better job so that I can focus on going back to college. For ten years now, I have been the one taking care of the children and the house, making appointments, making the budget and keeping the bills paid, I make all decisions for our household (not by choice, he refuses to give me input), I am in charge of fixing things in the household and pretty much everything else in our everyday life. I even had to drive myself to the hospital when I was in labor with our last child. And he never even proposed to me! The last three years have been really hard on me. I lost my drivers license because of an accident I was in, I lost both of my parents, I had a misscarriage and I'm currently filing bankruptcy. He has not supported me through any of it. He didn't even go to my D&C with me. He stayed at home and slept. Ive been really depressed recently. I tell him over and over that I need him to take on more responsibility because I am crumbling under the weight of my responsibility. He always says he's going to change but never does. Hes always going to his friends house and ignoring me to stay up late and play video games..... Well, on new years I met a guy and ended up sleeping with him. We've been talking to each other since then. I've told my husband about it and he got really upset at first, but now is acting like nothing happened. I told him I want to separate and he's acting like I never said anything. I think it would be a good idea to separate so that he can learn to take care of himself and so that I can take care of myself and make myself happy. I don't want to leave him to be with this other guy, but I'd like to keep seeing him because he takes care of me like my husband never has. I can't afford to move out right away and he refuses to leave, so I'm living with my husband still. We are acting like nothing has changed. We are even still sleeping together. I know that it's wrong to act like this to him if I intend on leaving him....but I do still love him (im not sure if I am still IN love with him or not?) and I don't want to hurt him or make things weird until I can move out. I just don't know what to do. I know that I'll go crazy if I stay with him because I know he'll never change, but I know he loves me and I love him. It's so confusing. I need outside opinions. Link to comment
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