Deejmonster Posted January 15, 2017 Share Posted January 15, 2017 In the last few years I have done a lot of soul searching in order to build myself into the person that I want to be. I think that I have come a long way and I know that there is more for me to do. I took some time off of dating for a while for my own mental health and got back into it around September. I met a few really nice women on eharmony, and eventually met my former girlfriend. I felt like I took a chance when I messaged her. I figured that she was out of my league and I was pleasantly surprised when she came to really take an interest in me. We dated and eventually came official all in the span of a few months. I felt that I really took my time, I didn’t rush into anything, and we didn’t put labels on it until I felt like we were ready. She had everything that I was looking for in a person but our personalities were pretty different. I started noticing things that I didn’t necessarily like with her but still tried to accept her. She was my girlfriend and I understand that there will always be these types of things. Within the past month she began showing more of her true self… very argumentative, complained a lot, would challenge me on things, and I felt that we was no longer pulling her weight. I enjoyed being around her but could not for the life of me figure out why she would always trying and start things. She struggles with weight issues, and had weight loss surgery and lost over 100 pounds in the process. She looks amazing, but still suffers the mental strain of thinking that it’s not enough. We broke up last week after a small argument. She barely said a word to me over the course of 2 days. This was not acceptable to me and I even contemplated pulling the plug before she ultimately handed down the sentence. The dust has settled, the break was clean and mature, and I have no interest in ever trying again with her because it won’t work between us. I do wish her the best, but I don’t think that she was mentally ready to take on a real relationship. I don’t think that she sees a lot of the personal issues that she is still fighting. I just don’t think she is happy with who she is. I understand that it wasn’t going to work and I understand that continuing to try would have been a mistake, and I understand that I will be fine but it still sucks. I am mad that I wasted my time, energy, money, and got emotionally invested and I have nothing to show for it. I still think about her a lot but it’s merely out of frustration. I’m hurt. It sucks and I know I will be ok, but I’m just frustrated. Link to comment
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