SoundofReason Posted January 12, 2017 Share Posted January 12, 2017 So I reconnected with someone last night, and on the spur of the moment asked them out on a date which they accepted. I picked them up and we went to have coffee. We had already been out once like 4 months ago, and the woman confided in me several things. 1. She was married to someone for 17 years who took and took and took(she is a giver) 2. She doesn't want to date someone like that anymore, or someone that is immature. We had talked about comic con which she worked at and she said that there were several things that had caused her to put a wall up around me. 1. She said that I didn't have my &*^% together. I have a degree (in history) but im not using it. She has a degree in UofP and has a good job at a university in business. I feel like this is unfair, but whatever. 2. I didn't know what networking was or how to do it(I am from a small town). She also said that my face lit up when I talked about anime, her ex is into all that and has a bunch of toys, which I don't have nor do I have or own any anime or videogames. 3. My washing machine broke down and she offered to have me wash clothes at her place. She told me by then that she had already had made her decision of how I was, but this was the icing on the cake. I told her that things happen and I don't know anyone here. Her excuse was that its been two years.... I understand that I have been here two years..but honestly, I feel like this is harsh and not fair on my part. She said that she was willing to pull that wall down and get to know me again. I told her that she was in her right to made a judgement, however, it was a wrong one. She tells me that she doesn't want to get hurt again. I reassured her that I would not do that, but still. Am I wasting my time here already? I mean she has already made a judgement that was NOT true and now is trying to pull down her wall, or should I give her the benefit of the doubt and let her do her thing? We have another date scheduled for tonight... P.S. The conversation got sexual at one point. She told me that she has had sex with people last year and didn't care but now this year is "different". She even showed me a pic with that as her new years resolution. Ok fair enough, when I dropped her off though, and i could be reading too much into this, but she gave me her cheek and just leaned in... Link to comment
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