My first time worries

[ebebeb]

So me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 months, we're 18 and have been best friends for about 5 years but the relationship thing is only new. Cause we've been friends so long we feel like we've been going out way longer than 4 months, and I feel ready to 'go all the way' with him but I'm really worried about him seeing me naked! Like really worried, I hate my body and it just seems weird to think he'd like it when I don't. I don't know how to get over my self consciousness.

Also, slightly more disgusting but does every woman get that 'wet' when you make out with your boyfriend? I actually feel embarrassed for him to even go anywhere near that area because of it. I'm also still slightly worried about pain/bleeding etc although I'm coming to terms with all that a bit more now. Any more advice on first times would be greatly appreciated!

[JaggerJim]

Well you could seduce him in the dark if you don't want him to see your body at first, or prepare some romantic candles so the lighting is soft and not stark.

 

But I bet he'd be so excited to get your kit off anyways, that he probably won't be focused too much on your body. You can fix body issues later.

[Wiseman2]

Don't worry about things. If he's dating you he thinks you're attractive. But don't push yourself to do anything you are not ready for. Don't be ashamed of your body or the natural physiology of arousal even if it feels new or weird.

 

Go slowly and if it's awkward or uncomfortable just stop what you are doing and relax and wait a while longer until you try again next time.. Make sure you and your bf talk about protection, birth control, stds, condoms, etc...Also have a talk about being exclusive.

So me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 months, we're 18 and I feel ready to 'go all the way'

[j.man]

Unless you're sporting parachute pants and a double large t-shirt, I doubt there's much you're hiding under there that he hasn't imagined himself. The last time I was surprised by a woman's body was when I was a kid and first saw a nudie magazine. I thought boobs were perfect spheres. Boy did my world crash down after that. Just be yourself and have fun. But if you truly don't want to, then don't. If you can imagine how quickly you'd dry up if he were to quiver in fear before sex, it'd be the same effect for him. Go with what feels natural. Everyone's gotta start somewhere. Enjoy yourself.

[Music13]

So me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 months, we're 18 and have been best friends for about 5 years but the relationship thing is only new. Cause we've been friends so long we feel like we've been going out way longer than 4 months, and I feel ready to 'go all the way' with him but I'm really worried about him seeing me naked! Like really worried, I hate my body and it just seems weird to think he'd like it when I don't. I don't know how to get over my self consciousness.

Also, slightly more disgusting but does every woman get that 'wet' when you make out with your boyfriend? I actually feel embarrassed for him to even go anywhere near that area because of it. I'm also still slightly worried about pain/bleeding etc although I'm coming to terms with all that a bit more now. Any more advice on first times would be greatly appreciated!

 

I'm a bit older than you and made love for the first time not a long time ago. I thought I was ready and wasn't as much as I wanted. Just like you, I was insecured about my body. Being in the dark helps a lot honestly.

Just try to go slowly. Let him discover you. Do one step at a time and if you want to stop, say it and don't be scared. If he insists and you're still uncomfortable, still say no. You have plenty of time to discover yourself and the first time is important.

I thought I wouldn't be stressed during my first time but it was the perfect opposite. As a result, it hurt a little bit. I'm not trying to scared you or anything. My body has a way to react to stuff that might be different than yours. It just can be a reality. After a couple of times, it stops hurting.

Some women experience bleeding. It may be worse during the first times but some other women just don't and it really depends of your body. Your boyfriend won't be disgusted by it and if he is, he is pretty immature. You don't have to be disgusted by it either.

 

I think part of being wet is just normal and there is absolutely nothing to be ashamed in that. I think it's better if you're more wet when you make out so it permits to the whole thing to be less painful especially at the beginning. So, the "before" is very important. Don't go straight to the penetration part. You don't need to be stressed about being wet or anything.

If you don't feel comfortable about oral sex because of that, then let you some time. Not all women love it and you must be able to stop worrying about all the stuff, if you want to really enjoy the whole experience. Don't do it until you're ready and there's no shame about telling him no.

 

It's important to communicate. If you don't like one position or something, tell it. Both partner must enjoy it.

Use condoms, birth control, don't become pregnant right away and have a good time