Breaking up - might just be a bit of time apart.

[Scash1]

My boyfriend of 3 years just broke up with me (1st time) as we had been arguing a fair bit. He moved in with his friends a 6 months ago and since then I had become last priority, even when he would invite me over to spend time with him all we would do is watch tv with his mates. I addressed the situation a few times but nothing ever changed. We had a very good relationship overall and had always been very close. When we were breaking up what he was saying and how he acting gave me very mixed signals. He was saying he wanted to break up because he wasn't happy, but it could just be some time apart.. he continued to tell me how much he was in love with me and kept kissing me and touching me and I have never seen him cry this much. When I said I thought it was time for him to go he said he didn't want to leave.. but I told him he had to. He wanted to leave some of his possessions at my house 'so he could come back'. When he was leaving I have never seen anyone so upset. I immediately applied NC and it has now been 5 days. What am I meant to think about his actions? Do you think he will realise what we had and want to get back together??

[gebaird]

He obviously regrets losing you, but apparently not enough to actually change his behavior and give you what you need.

 

No contact is the right approach. It will help you heal.

[Wiseman2]

Sorry to hear this. you did the right thing if he was taking you for granted and also by going no contact. Don't let him 'leave stuff at your place' as a demotion to fwb/ hookups...He sounds immature, how old is he?

He moved in with his friends a 6 months ago and since then I had become last priority. He was saying he wanted to break up because he wasn't happy, but it could just be some time apart.. He wanted to leave some of his possessions at my house 'so he could come back'.

[Scash1]

I told him to take it and he did... all my stuff is still at his though as he did it at my house. We are both 23

[03222019]

He sounds like he has some growing up to do. While friends are important your relationship should be as if not more important. I'm a bit of an all or nothing person so I would give him his things and leave it like that but on good terms (as nice as it can be). He might want you back in the future but you've got to think what's best for you and whether you think it's worth working on.