corilemon1112 Posted January 11, 2017 Share Posted January 11, 2017 We started hanging out back in November. Everything was great for about the first 2-3 weeks (of course) He was everything I wanted and he appeared to be really in to me. We didn't talk about what we wanted out of the relationship until 2 weeks in. We had sex on the second date (I've known him before this....we just never hung out) So I was fully open to either trying to make it a relationship or keeping it as just what it was. Essentially sex and occasional friends. Nothing too personal if he didn't want. He said he wanted a relationship....so we agreed to work towards that. Anyways. After the third week, he suddenly became too busy to hang out as much, didn't text as much, and overall didn't seem to have any interest in me. It sucked at first but I took it as a hint to move on. Since we aren't officially together it wasn't a huge deal and we weren't exactly obligated to do anything with each other. so I moved on, sort of. I started dating other people (but was only having sex with him) I started seeing these people just assuming he had moved on and honestly I didn't enjoy the fact that he was too busy for me, so I was basically over it. We did still hang out sometimes and we still continued to have sex and whatever. I haven't asked if he has been seeing someone else during these times he doesn't respond to me and I don't care...I don't tell him I'm seeing other people either. We haven't been that close yet. The other night I was hanging with a guy friend and "my guy" acted as if I was doing something wrong....like it bothered him that I was with another guy. He didn't admit to being mad but I could tell it bothered him. If it really bothers him why hasn't he actually tried to make this more official? Or why does he seem to not have time for me? I was for sure that he was just pulling away from me but every now and again he will pop up acting as sweet and nice and lovey as he did when we first met. I understand he is busy with work, projects, and his own friends and stuff...but he wasn't THAT busy when we first started talking (even as friends) last night he said something that made it sound like he thought we were actually boyfriend and girlfriend. We aren't. I honestly think he thinks we are though. This whole situation has just become confusing for me and I don't want a guy who can't be straight with me about what's going on. Do I need to break up with him even though it wasn't official? Do I need to tell him I'm seeing other people? Is it worth telling him about how I feel he is too busy for me? I didn't think it was that serious but I guess we've been doing this thing for 3 months now... Link to comment
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