need some serious help !!!!!!

[zeldorh]

not sure what section I should put this in because its really a wide range of things i need help with

 

so where do i even start... Hi my name is sam ,I am 23 i started off at a young age dating a girl I met at church.I was around 16 at the time (first girl i ever dated)... after talking for about 3 months started noticing that we had a lot in common so we started dating long story shot we broke up about a year ago.. and we have a beautiful 4 year old daughter together and im having the hardest time getting back into the dating game... from what i have heard from other women and weirdly guys across the board is that im a very handsome and attractive young man.. i have got numbers anywhere from like a 7.5 to like an 8.5 but i honestly don't feel it and feel like more like a 4 or 5 i have very bad self esteem problems in public but think i look damn good when im just around my family ... i guess one of the biggest reasons i don't feel very attractive is that i don't really have any dating experience at all but dont know how to hold a conversation with a women so they get turned off easy... Another major thing for me confidence wise is that my hair is starting to really thin out in the back and i feel like everyone is always secretly judging me in my head at least thats what im thinking... and another really bad problem is that when me and my ex were f buddy's for a while i noticed that it only took me like literally 5 mins to get off so that is another thing at really worries me if i do get with someone how that might affect even a one night stand kind of thing because no girl once a guy that cant last... should i see a doc or something about theses problems? i mean i used to last like an hour to 2 hours but i noticed that it only took her like 5 to 20 mins to get off and my stamina took a nose dive . advice would be great !!!!

 

 

so basically to sum it up :

*i have no sex drive hardly at all

*i cant last more then like 5 mins (used to last 1 to 2 hours)

* starting to go bald at 23

* no game at all sense i was basically tied down for almost all of my middle school and high school years

*no confidence in social gatherings like that bar with friends

[gebaird]

In the 1960s there was a plastic surgeon who found that no matter how many enhancements he made to some people, they continued to see themselves as ugly. The problem, he concluded, wasn't with their actual image, but their self-image. He wrote a book that you might find interesting:

 

I think therapy would do you more good than a visit to a medical doctor. These problems seem to be psychological.

[Wiseman2]

What's your relationship with your child and the child's mother at this point? Are you still fwb? Do you live alone, with your parents with her?

 

Do you work full time? Or go to school? Do you drink or do drugs? It would be a good idea to get evaluated for things in general and possible talk to a therapist about the low libido and premature ejaculation.

 

Why don't you get on some dating apps and meet some women for a low pressure coffee meets? That's better than going to clubs and worrying about your game.

I am 23 we have a beautiful 4 year old daughter together ... and another really bad problem is that when me and my ex were f buddy's for a while.

[zeldorh]

What's your relationship with your child and the child's mother at this point? Are you still fwb? Do you live alone, with your parents with her?

 

Do you work full time? Or go to school? Do you drink or do drugs? It would be a good idea to get evaluated for things in general and possible talk to a therapist about the low libido and premature ejaculation.

 

Why don't you get on some dating apps and meet some women for a low pressure coffee meets? That's better than going to clubs and worrying about your game.

 

yea i actually work 2 jobs my full time job is a factory job i work about 50 hours a week there and a delivery driver for 20 hours a week no im not in school atm until next year when i plan on quiting my factory job to go full time schooling and i social dink on an occasion and no i dont do any drug my relationship with my daughter is pretty good, believe it or not i have her more then ex does and at this point and no she has a bf now and yes i live in my own house that i bought about a year ago and own alot for a 23 year old kid had my brand new car paid off and working to pay house off atm