I caught my boyfriend of 5 years sending nude pictures to women online.

[kate90]

I caught my boyfriend of 5 years sending nude pictures to women online. Our relationship been pretty rocky lately.We just had a baby 8 months ago .Plus we have a lot stress with money since i havent been working since i had the baby.I went through his phone and i saw nude pics of him in his email. I am so mad right now. I dont know what i should do. I dont wanna break up our family but i also do not want to be treated like this either. I feel you shouldnt do this to someone you love and have a baby with.What you would do?

[Wiseman2]

Sorry to hear this. Do you live together? What do you mean by 'rocky lately' are you both adjusting to the new baby?

 

You need to ask him directly about the sexting you found. Ask if he is having unprotected sex, hookups.

 

He may deny it or turn it around into 'your snooping' or 'your trust issues'. Stay on the topic of sexting and cheating.

I caught my boyfriend of 5 years sending nude pictures to women online. I went through his phone and i saw nude pics of him in his email.

[MissCanuck]

Yikes.

 

I would dig further to find out what exactly he's been up to. You need to know who you've been sleeping next to, and chances are that it's not limited to naked photos. Who are these photos/emails to?

 

If it were me, I would want to know if he's also been cheating physically - if so, you need to get yourself tested. It's not likely he will reveal this on your own, which is why I said you do some further digging.

 

I'm sorry, OP. It appears he's not the honest man you hoped.

[No1]

I would seek a counselor today and talk to them one on one. If you tell him you know about his little activities, he is going to get mad, defensive and blame you. Then after the fight is over, nothing is going to be resolved. If you dont tell him then the activity continues.

So I would find a counselor today. Then sit your BF down and have a conversation. DO NOT confront. You can say that you know what he is doing and you can suggest couples counseling. Admit that the relationship has been rocky lately and that you are there to work it out, just please stop. He is probably feeling he needs attention or sexual attention. There is a reason why he is sending pictures. Maybe he needs to feel attractive, wanted or whatever. Im not saying he is innocent or what he is doing is okay. He wants attention. Try counseling

[greta96]

If the man in my life was stupid enough to take nudes of himself and send them over into cyberspace, I would no longer want him in my life, baby or no baby. To me, this is a simple decision, nothing to mull over. Yes putting it into practice would be more difficult than it sounds, but I don't compromise on cheating, or stupidity.

 

There are many ways to deal with the stress of a new baby and lack of finances, sending nudes to other women is just not one of them.

[Hollyj]

If the man in my life was stupid enough to take nudes of himself and send them over into cyberspace, I would no longer want him in my life, baby or no baby. To me, this is a simple decision, nothing to mull over. Yes putting it into practice would be more difficult than it sounds, but I don't compromise on cheating, or stupidity.

 

There are many ways to deal with the stress of a new baby and lack of finances, sending nudes to other women is just not one of them.

 

Totally agree!

 

This guy is cheating on you and your child. He may have even taken it to a physical level.

 

Don't stay because of financial needs, but start planning a way to get a way from this guy.

[Capricorn3]

If the man in my life was stupid enough to take nudes of himself and send them over into cyberspace, I would no longer want him in my life, baby or no baby. To me, this is a simple decision, nothing to mull over. Yes putting it into practice would be more difficult than it sounds, but I don't compromise on cheating, or stupidity.

 

There are many ways to deal with the stress of a new baby and lack of finances, sending nudes to other women is just not one of them.

 

Totally agree.

 

Sorry this has happened to you. OP, do you have any support network? Siblings? Parents? Could you move back to your parents' place?