Possibly dating again

[Capttrae]

Idk wether to look forward to it or dread it. Girl I dated 9-10 years ago and I have been talking a good bit. She asked if I'd like to get together soon, so I said yea sure, so we have made plans to spend a few days together after next hitch. Last time we dated it was good, really really good, but like most long distance relationships, time took it's toll. That and she had some medical issues to take care of and she decided it was best for her to stay in Florida for awhile and take care of it. This time, who knows, maybe it'll be different. Seems like she's not all in to the high society crap she was before and won't be ashamed for me to meet her friends and such. I mean over the holidays she was at her moms house spending some time there, we were talking, I told her to tell her mom merry Christmas and she (her mom) couldn't believe we were still talking after all these years. This prolly ain't making any sense.

[gebaird]

At the very least it sounds like a good chance to catch up and reminisce. Hope it goes well!

[snoopygal]

Don't worry too much about what may or may not happen. You could end up having a really good time, or she may still be into the high society crap she had been. Like gebaird said, it'll be a good chance to catch up.

[tattoobunnie]

If you feel any level of dread, why would you want to meet up? So if you didn't like her then, you're not gonna like her now.

 

Last time I met up with a blast from the past (14 years of no contact), I treated him like meeting up with an old friend. We had only dated for 4 months in our late teens, but were friends for two years prior. When we broke up, I called him a bunch of names, and burned all of the pictures I had of him.

 

Then, 14 years later...we wound up getting married him and having kids with together.

 

Lesson here, don't think too much about how it plays out - just enjoy and have fun.

[Capttrae]

If you feel any level of dread, why would you want to meet up? So if you didn't like her then, you're not gonna like her now.

 

Last time I met up with a blast from the past (14 years of no contact), I treated him like meeting up with an old friend. We had only dated for 4 months in our late teens, but were friends for two years prior. When we broke up, I called him a bunch of names, and burned all of the pictures I had of him.

 

Then, 14 years later...we wound up getting married him and having kids with together.

 

Lesson here, don't think too much about how it plays out - just enjoy and have fun.

 

The only reason I feel any dread, is bc I had no intentions of dating again like EVER. I had my walls sky high and zero intention of ever letting them down. And just one thought of me and her having a second chance and I can easily see those walls coming right down to nothing.

[Capttrae]

Thing about her, she pushed me to be more than just a deckhand on a snapper smack, she showed me (in pictures) a world I had only heard about. I felt like Conway when he sang about that woman wearin those tight fittin jeans. Up until the end and then I felt so idk how to even explain it, I felt just broken. Even though I've been in several relationships since then, cared a lot about 2 of them, almost got hitched once, but never since her have I let someone else in that deep. I realized after I'd pushed one away that I should have let her in, the other I tried but wouldn't let myself. But it's almost like this one don't even have to try. Maybe it's true, when u give your whole heart away you never really get it back? Idk.but what if we do decide to give it another chance? I mean I haven't changed much. I'm still the same ol redneck that'd rather be butt deep in a swamp swatting skeeters or playin with my dog, than any party, restaurant, or social junk. How could we ever find a middle ground? She's a. Millionaires daughter, when we met, if she wanted to go shopping she'd just hop in daddy's plane and fly to New York or such places and go shopping. Now since her daddy passed idk how her life has been, I know she lived in Montana for a while, and here and there. Maybe she had to grow up. Or maybe I'm just her safe guy, bc she knows I'd never do anything to hurt her, or maybe it's bc I'm different from her usual type, her ex husband, city boy, likes the whole social scene, her last ex, big job, big money, could do the social thing, I've seen pics of them at these functions where they are all dressed to the nines. Me, like I said before I don't do those things, my nice clothes are a nice pair of carhartt pants, button down Drake Waterfowl shirt max 5 on the shoulders and the rest is solid brown and either my good work boots or the ostrich hide Justins.

I know I'm prolly way over thinking this but what if we do have fun and the spark is still there? What if she turns my world upside down again? What if she decides to move to bfe Kentucky? Or worse what if it's just a replay of the past???????? I don't ever want to feel that again.

[tattoobunnie]

I think you are worrying about this too much. Just get together, and have fun as very good old friends. If you are going into it with expectations, it will just make you anxious.

[tattoobunnie]

Trust me. If you were her safe guy, you would have heard from her a LOT sooner than in 9 years!

[Sportster2005]

Nine to 10 years is a lot of time to mature and make real change. She may not be the "high society" type. The gotcha is other things about her may have changed that you won't like.

 

Approach it as almost meeting someone new.