Am I to do something or not?

[hopeful210]

So there is this guy who I met at my friend's church a year ago. Honestly, even if it sounds crazy, I fell for him even before I met him in person. But that's a whole other story. Anyway, right now I am good friends with his parents and his 4 siblings, but I just can't seem to be in the same room with him. It has NEVER happened to me before, and everytime I catch a glance of him, on the inside I turn into a train wreck. I can't be near him because i panic quickly. I talk to his brothers like nothing but with him I hardly talk, just cause I'm head over heels for him. Some friends tell me to just talk to him, but I'm not sure if I should be the one making the first move. I don't want to come off as "that girl" who he will try to avoid, but then I don't want to come off as rude or have him think that I dislike him cause I don't talk to him and I'm friendly with the rest of his family.

 

SO, I went to his house recently with a friend to go hang out with his brother, AND he happened to be home too. So he comes downstairs cause he hears that there's people over and he's always friendly and says hi. Since my friend was closest, he goes and gives her one of those dude greetings, the one where you slide hands and fist bump at the end. BUT here is where I'm SUPER HELLA CONFUSED. He approaches me and gives me a good and proper handshake. WHAT DOES THAT MEAN???? Why did he give me a handshake and my friend a fist bump???? He's always been so proper with me, but I notice that whenever I'm hanging around other people, he does that. I ALWAYS get the handshake. There have been times where it seems like he likes me, but others when I'm just clueless. He's very reserved and hardly ever talk about his love life with anyone. He hasn't really had many girlfriends and right now he's super focused on his church, producing his bands EP, and on work. One friend told me that I picked the most difficult one cause he's not like his siblings. Those guys are very extroverted, but he's a bit less than them.

 

So yeah, what does it mean? Why do I get the handshake and not his usual fist bump thingy like everyone else??? This is killing me!!!! I don't know what I should do or if I should even approach him. HEEEEELLLLLPPPPP!!!!!

[James516]

He doesn't know you well enough which could be partly due to you appearing standoffish if you're trying to hide your interest or nervousness, so he politely shakes your hand. You're in your head so much about this crush that you are on overthinking overdrive. You can spend years hoping for signs, but since you are interested, next time ask him about his band to start a conversation that at least could be the first to help relate to each other. All musicians like to talk about their music, it's an easy way to get more comfortable.

[Wiseman2]

It sounds like you are letting yourself get paralyzed by your crush. How old is he? He's being polite because he barely knows you and you are sitting around his house.

I ALWAYS get the handshake. He's very reserved and hardly ever talk about his love life with anyone. He hasn't really had many girlfriends and right now he's super focused on his church,