New girlfriend but not sure she wants me

[luvedup]

Hi all. Well im 4 month's into a relationship with a girl iv fallen head over heels for. We have both told each other we see a future and want marriage, babies etc. But im really worried about the physical side of our relationship. When we first started seeing each other, she would text me telling me how much she wanted me n what she wanted to do to me n send cheeky pics etc. But since we became a couple all that stopped. She never initiates sex or seems to want it at all. She isnt very touchy feely with me. If i try to send her cheeky txts she just laughs them off or replies in a way thats not overly flirtatious. I recently spoke to her about how i feel n said i miss that side of things because it keeps the relationship exciting.

 

She basically said when we first got together she didnt see me as much as she does now so she doesnt need to be like that anymore. She shut down n didnt have much to say n just that there is no problem with us and she loves me. To be fair she tells me she loves me all the time. But all the physical spark has gone. She never flirts or has banter with me at all.

 

We go on dates, we kiss and cuddle and do all the cute couply stuff, we have the perfect relationship aside from this side of her that i loved at the beginning just dissappeared and im scared its going to ruin our relationship. In all honesty i feel like she isnt attracted to me anymore but she says she is. What can i do?

[gebaird]

Have you read the book "The Five Love Languages?" It has a lot of insights about how different people express and feel love. It could help you understand her, and yourself, better.

[Wiseman2]

Don't fret about the infatuation phase mellowing out into the relationship building phase. Keep up the dates and romance and stuff, but the flirty texts etc can settle down and it doesn't mean anything because it's slowly being transformed into a more secure solid relationship

[luvedup]

Have you read the book "The Five Love Languages?" It has a lot of insights about how different people express and feel love. It could help you understand her, and yourself, better.

 

No i havent but thats a good idea.. thankyou!

[luvedup]

Don't fret about the infatuation phase mellowing out into the relationship building phase. Keep up the dates and romance and stuff, but the flirty texts etc can settle down and it doesn't mean anything because it's slowly being transformed into a more secure solid relationship

 

This helped a lot thankyou. So is it silly of me to expect all the exciting stuff you get at the beginning to still be happening? I just thought it was important to keep the relationship strong.