Stuck between two

[Harp123]

Hi,

 

I have been in a relationship for the past 4 years now with my uni boyfriend.. the last year has been very rocky for us.. he was unemployed and i was and still going under depression. We started to argue so much on every little thing, i was a complete different person before the last year and now i am completely different. Ive had to emotionally and financially support my bf every year and ive forgotten how it feels to be treated like a gf..however he has never stopped loving me. I started working in a new role recently and have met someone who has been giving me a lot of attention and has fallen for me and i think i have too.. however i stopped it all to try and mend my relationship with my bf. No matter how much we try, we end up talking to eachother and feelings are getting deeper. I love my bf but if im falling for someone else im clearly not in love with him. I feel ever so guilty and have been dwelling over this for the past couple weeks. Today i told my bf i wanted to break up because i havent been giving him my all and i feel like im forcing myself to be in this relationship..at the same time i was crying my eyes out because i dont want to lose him, but we have not been happy for ages. When i told him, he threatened me that if i leave he l ruin my life.

But at the same time he feels that we have tried hard enough and is forcing me out of love to stay. I feel so bad because i also like the other guy at work but im also scared that will i ever be loved like my bf loves me. However him threatening me has made me look at him in a different light. He doesn't see that we have tried so much and we end up in the same situation again and again regardless of how i feel about the other guy. Ive been so stressed. I dont want to make a mistake. I cant leave my job as im making good money..but everytime i look at him i smile. I feel so guilty towards both.. the guy at work knows about my bf and doesnt want me to make a mistake either, hes never tried to make a move but has told me that he wants to be with me. I dont know what to do.

I cant tell my bf about him as we work for the same company and it puts all our jobs into jeopardy. I just never thought I'd be in such a situation.

[Wiseman2]

You did the right thing breaking up it hasn't been working for a long time. Just go. His threats are abusive. Block and delete him from everything immediately and go no contact.

 

Tell your parents about this. Consider a restraining or if he stalks, harasses you or shows up at your home or workplace. However do not tell the your office crush about any of this drama. In fact keep him out of your personal life and do not date coworkers.

Today i told my bf i wanted to break up because i havent been giving him my all and i feel like im forcing myself to be in this relationship..we have not been happy for ages.

 

When i told him, he threatened me that if i leave he l ruin my life.