I don't know where to start

[Vivi0476]

My husband and I have split after just 5 years of marriage. About 2 years ago everything started changing. His friends, he began to drink, gamble, use psychedelic drugs. I don't know where this is coming from? Maybe he was miserable with me? I don't know. Anyway, the night after Christmas I came home from work and he had a bunch of friends over and he was already drunk by 530pm. He started a terrible fight with me, then attempted to steal my car. Stupid me, I jumped in the car as he was pulling out. He starts screaming at me that I'm going to die then flies head on into a Boulder and high centers the car. He gets the car off the rock drives into the road and jumps out with me stunned in it. I pull the car to a safe spot as I'm not sure of the extent of the damage. I see his truck is gone so I go back to the house thinking he's gone. As I walk up the driveway he comes out screaming at me. He'd only moved the truck so i couldn't see it. I cant make Hyde nor hair of what this man is screaming at me about. So I ask "are you high?" At that point wham! Right hook to my face. Now I've never been knocked out before this. I go down in the snow. A neighbor comes out to help me and my husband proceeds to beat up the neighbor. Then he takes off finally. I don't know what to do. He's moved 4 hours away. I can't afford to move but his names still on this lease and my car is in his name. I'm worried he'll be back and take it or hurt me. I'm about to empty the bank account to protect myself financially. But that's going to provoke him once he sees it empty. I don't know where to begin to protect myself, my dog, or my transportation. Maybe he'll just quietly go away bc he's afraid I'll file a report? Has anyone been in this situation before? I feel very helpless and that's not me. I'm not weak. But right now I sure feel weak.

[Scoe141]

First thing you do is call the police. He needs to be in jail.

 

At this point your safety is number one priority. Get in touch with a domestic violence group and seek counseling/advice.

 

You, nor anyone, needs to be treated like this.

[Wiseman2]

Sorry to hear this. You need to call the cops, not jump in a car with a raging drunk. You are in way over your head.

 

Consult an attorney about separation and divorce options. There is no such thing as 'your' car or 'his' lease in a marriage . You seriously need to talk to an attorney because you don't know what a marriage entails legally. Do not empty the bank account. YOU MUST CONTACT AN ATTORNEY NOW. You are making grave mistakes.

 

You also need to contact a domestic violence agency for help, info, support, counseling and resources. Do no move out, get a restraining order.

he was already drunk by 530pm. He started a terrible fight with me, then attempted to steal my car. Stupid me, I jumped in the car as he was pulling out. He starts screaming at me that I'm going to die then flies head on into a Boulder. I don't know where to begin to protect myself, my dog, or my transportation. Maybe he'll just quietly go away bc he's afraid I'll file a report?

[Vivi0476]

I worry that calling the police will only provoke him as well. Sure, they'll arrest him, but his uncle is a bondsman and he'll have him out as soon as he's booked in. Then who knows what he'll do once he's out. Crikey, I need to get my stuff together. I'll contact an attorney tomorrow. This is just so crazy to be in this stupid situation. I hate alcohol and drugs. They certainly do change people.

[Wiseman2]

Call an attorney now. Get a restraining order now

i worry that calling the police will only provoke him as well. Sure, they'll arrest him, but his uncle is a bondsman and he'll have him out as soon as he's booked in. Then who knows what he'll do once he's out.

[Scoe141]

I worry that calling the police will only provoke him as well. Sure, they'll arrest him, but his uncle is a bondsman and he'll have him out as soon as he's booked in. Then who knows what he'll do once he's out. Crikey, I need to get my stuff together. I'll contact an attorney tomorrow. This is just so crazy to be in this stupid situation. I hate alcohol and drugs. They certainly do change people.

 

It doesn't matter what his family does. If there are visible signs of any form of domestic violence an arrest must be made. Then more than likely there will be a restraining order issued. If he violates that, he'll wind up back in jail.

 

Do you have any family/friends you can stay with and or give you support?

[Vivi0476]

Unfortunately what little family I have left state 3 years ago and my girlfriends have full houses. So I'm going to call the police. I want to stay in myhome. Unfortunately, my bruises have gone, but I took a picture of my swollen bruised face after it happened and my bloody knees so I guess I'll use that. I don't know if pictures will suffice. We'll see what they say.

[Scoe141]

Unfortunately what little family I have left state 3 years ago and my girlfriends have full houses. So I'm going to call the police. I want to stay in myhome. Unfortunately, my bruises have gone, but I took a picture of my swollen bruised face after it happened and my bloody knees so I guess I'll use that. I don't know if pictures will suffice. We'll see what they say.

 

Yea, photos can be prove to be valuable pieces of evidence, coupled with your oral and written statement. Also you mentioned your neighbor was a witness, so they will likely be interviewed as well.

 

I've never been in your shoes, but have worked a lot of cases similar to the one you described. You're doing the right thing.