What to do

[Haycarnage1234]

So me and my gf broke up a few weeks ago, Well she broke up with me, I'm currently going through a few problems and she's the only one who's trying to help me as my family have all turned there back on me, when we meet up as I have a cat there so go see her, things are like normal between us, I found out she was on a dating site a week after we broke up, she said she's only talking to people and doesn't want to move on, she got kinda defensive when I said I hope she does move on, also she doesn't show any emotion about our break up, but said she isn't over me and all isn't what it seems, she keeps making a point that she'll never get with me again apart from being friends.. I signed up to the same dating site as her in anger but haven't been on it and it says no dating or commitment. Hers says dating, she messaged and had a go at me for being on a dating site, because I told her I want her back, she said well I can see your looking to date so you must be over me.. Then said but it doesn't matter as we're single. I'm unsure what to do.. And tonight it's hit me all at once that I'll never be able to do the things we used to, realising all the memories we had.. I'm totally broke atm

[gebaird]

It sounds like you need to let her go -- and maybe the cat, too. Continuing to interact with her will just bring you pain and keep you from healing.

[luisannalui]

What to do? Let her go. Don't tell her that you are going no contact, just stop contact and yes that includes the cat and stalking her on social media, ah yeah and the dating site.

[Haycarnage1234]

I can't let my cat go, she's literally the only thing I have atm, it sounds stupid but I Currently have no family or friends to depend on.

[Wiseman2]

So you still live together but are both on the same dating site but telling each other you are "just talking" but not ready to move on?

 

As long as she lets you live with her because you think it's too expensive to look for your own place, you'll have to stand by and watch her dating, no?

I'm currently going through a few problems and she's the only one who's trying to help me. I found out she was on a dating site a week after we broke up, she said she's only talking to people and doesn't want to move on.

[Haycarnage1234]

No I'm not living with her, I'm trying to get my own place, she's helping me out by looking after my cat and some bits as I'm between places, I'm not the site now I just done it in anger when my friend showed me my ex was on it, I believe her when she says she's not just going to move on yet, as I know her.

[Wiseman2]

People are on fb etc for friends, she's on a DATING site. As she said, she hasn't moved on YET, but she's definitely trying to. You should really focus on that more as well.

 

She asked you to move out. She's on dating apps...the writing is on the wall, no?

I believe her when she says she's not just going to move on yet