What is going on??

[Quaileggs]

Ex of a few months cheated on me. I knew he was pretty insecure but I didn't know it was enough to drive him to cheat. He was always looking for external happiness and went with whatever made him happy at the moment.

Nonetheless I forgave him because our relationship was really bad at this point and things were shaky. I didn't get back with him because I needed the space. He agreed and said he still wanted to be together. Now it's been over a month and he has made no effort. He has ignored me. What could he be thinking?

[CurlyQSue]

Well he is probably thinking he doesn't want to be with you anymore. I'm not sure what could possibly drive him to cheating but I think you are better off. It doesn't seem like things were going too well from what you say and when people get space away from that sort of thing....it gives them an opportunity to think about the relationship from a different perspective. my boyfriend of 2 years cheated on me and I took him back we had a rocky relationship. One day he broke up with me because of how rough it was. I spent a week basically crying and begging for him to come back....then during that second week...I was good. I realized I was better off and being in a relationship where it was rough like that and cheating was involved just wasn't worth it. I think the guy is just over it even if in the beginning he thought differently.

[Quaileggs]

I agree. I hate that he doesn't just say it though. It would give me closure and save a lot of me trying to wrap my head around things.

How are you feeling now?

[Wiseman2]

Sorry to hear this but cheating is about hedonism impulsiveness and not giving a crap about the partner, not "insecurity". How long were you dating? Were you exclusive?

 

You dodged a bullet. He won't stop "always looking for external happiness and went with whatever made him happy at the moment" by dating again, especially by forgiving him and giving him a pass to continue.

 

This is the perfect time to end things go no contact and delete and block him from all social media a messaging. it sounds like he's moved on to greener pastures. What is he thinking? "Wow I can have my cake and eating too".

Ex of a few months cheated on me. I forgave him.Now it's been over a month and he has made no effort. He has ignored me. What could he be thinking?