merona55 Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 It's been two months since the breakup and I don't feel like it's getting any easier. We were together for 4 years. It was a messy breakup and I am the dumpee. I haven't contacted him. We haven't spoken since the breakup. Sometimes I feel okay and then not okay. I cry at least once a day. I feel like the pain hasn't gotten any easier. How does one cope? Any advice? Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 Has he tried contacting you or do you think it's just breadcrumbs or bait?Why would my ex unblock me on FB one month after breaking up with me? We haven't spoken since the breakup, I haven't contacted him, thoughts? Link to comment
JaggerJim Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 You probably should stop stalking his FB page to know this. Link to comment
merona55 Posted January 4, 2017 Author Share Posted January 4, 2017 How am I stalking when I see an "on this day notification" and his name appeared again? Link to comment
merona55 Posted January 4, 2017 Author Share Posted January 4, 2017 He hasn't tried contacting me. I really don't know if it's just breadcrumbs or bait but I will not be the first to reach out. Link to comment
JaggerJim Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 In turn, if he is up to something, block him so he can't see your page. He won't be expecting that. Link to comment
browser Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 I'd think if you blocked him on FB you wouldn't see notifications with his name on it. Link to comment
merona55 Posted January 4, 2017 Author Share Posted January 4, 2017 So blocking him would be my best option? Link to comment
browser Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 Its not an option. It's one of several steps to take when you're trying to get over someone because the daily reminders will do nothing other than cause you pain and set you back in your healing. Can you think of one good reason not to block him? Link to comment
merona55 Posted January 4, 2017 Author Share Posted January 4, 2017 I mean, it's been two months since the breakup, I doubt he would be up to something at this point. I have thought about blocking him. Link to comment
JaggerJim Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 You should block him so he can't see what your up too. Link to comment
browser Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 You should block him so he can't see what your up too. He dumped her. He's in a good place. He isn't looking to see what she's up to. Link to comment
sourhearts Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 This is one of my biggest fears. I was with my ex for 3 years. Broke it off tis past Friday. I just want close my eyes and for it to be 2 months already with NC on my side. I would say lay off Facebook. Deactivate it maybe?? Become a mystery. I'm not into the whole blocking thing really, but to each their own. Maybe use another source of social media that he doesn't have like Instagram? Even then stay low key. Why was the break up so messy? Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 Excellent. Have you blocked and deleted him? I really don't know if it's just breadcrumbs or bait but I will not be the first to reach out. Link to comment
merona55 Posted January 4, 2017 Author Share Posted January 4, 2017 Thanks. Not going to lie, these past two months haven't been easy, resisting the urge to contact has been extremely difficult but I've managed. You can get through it too. I promise. Link to comment
merona55 Posted January 4, 2017 Author Share Posted January 4, 2017 We're not friends on FB. I just noticed that I am no longer blocked. I haven't blocked him. Link to comment
sourhearts Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 Yes! Other people who are in the same boat as me, seeing their strength gives me strength. Wait, so did he unblock you then unfriend you? See, this is what I mean. When you block and unblock someone, it's playing games. He notices, she notices. I believe that it's better left alone. For example, I told one of my friends last night that I thought about putting my ex on call block, but then it would just go straight to voice mail. No, I want that phone to ring. Because with each ring, he'll be thinking .. she'll pick up, she'll pick up. And nope, I won't. Granted I'm back on day 1 of NC so who knows if that'll even happen. I say leave it be. Don't torture yourself. He probably realized blocking you was unnecessary. Or maybe he was afraid to see your posts or new pics? He was doing it for his own mental health. His way of grieving and dealing. Link to comment
browser Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 Wait, so did he unblock you then unfriend you? See, this is what I mean. When you block and unblock someone, it's playing games. He notices, she notices. Yes, it's game playing. Passive Aggressive 101. Link to comment
merona55 Posted January 4, 2017 Author Share Posted January 4, 2017 Yes! Other people who are in the same boat as me, seeing their strength gives me strength. Wait, so did he unblock you then unfriend you? See, this is what I mean. When you block and unblock someone, it's playing games. He notices, she notices. I believe that it's better left alone. For example, I told one of my friends last night that I thought about putting my ex on call block, but then it would just go straight to voice mail. No, I want that phone to ring. Because with each ring, he'll be thinking .. she'll pick up, she'll pick up. And nope, I won't. Granted I'm back on day 1 of NC so who knows if that'll even happen. I say leave it be. Don't torture yourself. He probably realized blocking you was unnecessary. Or maybe he was afraid to see your posts or new pics? He was doing it for his own mental health. His way of grieving and dealing. Well, like I said it was a messy breakup, he dumped me and then blocked me. I expected him to keep me blocked a little longer than a month. I noticed he unblocked me and I was surprised. I just left it alone. I'm not sure if he's playing mind games or not but I will not fall for it and I am sticking to no contact. If I can go 2 months without talking to him, I can go even longer. I would say stay strong and stick to no contact. It's hard but at least in the end you'll have your dignity. Link to comment
browser Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 One up him and block him. Otherwise you'll see his posts and notifications which you really don't need to be seeing. Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted January 5, 2017 Share Posted January 5, 2017 Wait, so did he unblock you then unfriend you? when you block someone it automatically unfriends them as well . Op just block him and save yourself the heartache you are going to get . Link to comment
merona55 Posted January 5, 2017 Author Share Posted January 5, 2017 Not relevant but how in the world do you delete a thread in this forum? Link to comment
browser Posted January 5, 2017 Share Posted January 5, 2017 Not relevant but how in the world do you delete a thread in this forum? You don't. Link to comment
sourhearts Posted January 5, 2017 Share Posted January 5, 2017 I don't have Facebook so I wouldn't know OP, think long and hard. What do you think is BEST for your own mental health? Besides NC. What important steps should you take to move forward and not dwell on a broken relationship another 2 months from now? Do you think if more time passes by there's a chance of reconciliation? Is that what you want? If you think the relationship has ran it's course and you're tired of the mind games, then yes, I would block him. Give him a taste of his own medicine. But KEEP him blocked. Don't do the same thing he did to you. Unblockblockunblock Link to comment
merona55 Posted January 5, 2017 Author Share Posted January 5, 2017 Really? Well, that's dumb. hah Link to comment
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