NYE Message from Ex

[loveliz]

Hello everyone,

 

I am new to this forum and I guess I just need a place to vent or get some of your thoughts.

 

I dated a guy for a few months who asked to stop seeing me because he didn't think I'm "the one." It came as a huge surprise to me because we always spoke about how compatible we were and we had a great connection since the beginning. HE also told me he eventually wanted a relationship with me. So, it was seriously a shocker because he was very into me.

 

I felt there were other factors he wasn't telling me about so after he broke things off, I didn't contact him not once. Of course when he cut things off, I was upset and I lashed out on him, but after that I did not reach out. After 3 months, he reached out to ask me how I was doing and I asked him for a closure conversation. We spoke and he gave me the same reasoning, he didn't want to enter a relationship with me if he was unsure about me. I then asked him to not reach out to me again after we agreed there were no hard feelings.

 

Two months later, on NYE at midnight he texted me a paragraph telling me he knows I asked him not to reach out, but he just "had to" wish me a happy new year. He told me he is happy he met me although we aren't dating. He also proceeded to tell me how beautiful of a person I am. I ignored those parts of the message and just wished him well back, keeping it cordial. He replied thank you, and that was it.

 

I am really trying not to over analyze this, but it's so frustrating and he seems confused. Texting me a simple Happy NY is one thing, but sending me a paragraph and at midnight at that, C'MON. I feel he used NYE as an excuse to contact me since I had told him to not reach out to me again. I decided to respond cordially because 1) I'm not in pain anymore and 2) I thought he may be trying to open the lines of communication again. However, I do still care about him and think of him often so him reaching out has had me in my thoughts.

 

Thanks for reading. Please feel free to provide any of your thoughts!

[j.man]

His good buddy Jameson probably sent that text for him.

[Wiseman2]

Try not to read into drunk dials or guilt texts or looking for an easy hookup messages.

 

It was time to block and delete him when he said "you're not the one". That would have spared a lot of drama, not to mention your dignity and self esteem. If he wanted you he wouldn't have stopped seeing you.

 

Never chase after people who do not want you. Go no contact and delete and block him from all social media and messaging. Get on some dating apps and start meeting men who are interested and don't jerk you around. .

I dated a guy for a few months who asked to stop seeing me because he didn't think I'm "the one." Of course when he cut things off, I was upset and I lashed out on him, but after that I did not reach out.

[Hollyj]

He disrespected your request. He was probably drunk.

 

Do you want to be friends with this guy, as will never develop into anything else? Also, I don't suggest a friendship until you're completely over him, or it could end up as a FWB

 

Wiseman is right! Block!

[No1]

I think you are right, he used NYE as an excuse to contact you. its a simple case of "Read it and Delete it" Then you think nothing of it again. He was just venting for his benefit and not yours. You are on the right path so dont let this get you down or get you off the path to healing. You are doing just fine without him.