Need some advice.

[LillianB]

My boyfriend and I have been dating on and off for about a year. There is a 12 year age difference. I'm 26. I absolutely love him. He is the only partner I have ever had that I have been faithful to. He is my best friend. I could not see myself without him, but..... I am not sexually attracted to him. He has never made me orgasm. Bringing myself to have sex with him sober is a chore. What do I do? Is my whole relationship doomed to fail?

[CurlyQSue]

if sex is important to you and you don't enjoy it with him....or you have to basically be intoxicated to bring yourself to it....do you really think that's fair? (to either of you) Why do you want to be with him, just because he's a good friend?

[gebaird]

Is sex important to you? If so, I don't see this relationship going anywhere good. If sex is lower on your priority list, and if his other qualities make up for his lack of sexual magnetism, maybe you can make it work.

[j.man]

"On and off" for over a year. No sexual chemistry. What could go wrong?

[Wiseman2]

Why is it on/off? There is attachment without attraction? Do you know whether the problem only lies with him or are you generally not into sex?

My boyfriend and I have been dating on and off for about a year. I am not sexually attracted to him.Bringing myself to have sex with him sober is a chore.

[itsallgrand]

You have sex drunk or high most of the time to 'get through' sleeping with him?!

 

This doesn't sound healthy. It sounds like you need him - maybe for a sense of security?

 

Your inability to be faithful before him, and now choosing someone you feel no sexual attraction to - it honestly sounds like you aren't ready for a serious relationship. That you have some work to do single first, on yourself.

[catfeeder]

He is the only partner I have ever had that I have been faithful to.

 

It doesn't sound as though this will be the case for long.