I emailed him and he didnt reply

[MaggieThisntha]

After being back and forth, like a loser, I messaged him to say happy ny and that I was reflecting on the past hurt and wanted to clarify a few things.

 

He didnt reply.

 

I am in agony

[requiem]

Don't worry about it. People make mistakes. Please be patient with him, and more importantly, with yourself.

[MaggieThisntha]

Don't worry about it. People make mistakes. Please be patient with him, and more importantly, with yourself.

 

I can't go on without him. Its been 3 months and he hasnt tried to get in touch. I tried at xmas and ny. Why doesnt he care?

 

All these websites say, make it a happy, casual message but i just said, i want to talk about the past. Maybe thats my error but the casual messaging felt fake with our history

[MissCanuck]

Sorry you're so hurt, OP.

 

The truth that if someone is done with a relationship, a message of any kind isn't going to make a difference. That's where some of these silly get-you-ex-back websites go wrong and give bad advice; you cannot reignite a desire in an ex if they're already gone and moving on.

 

How long were you together, and why did you break up?

[HeartGoesOn]

Not to sound harsh, but with your breakup being over for a period of 3 mos. already, what do you need to clarify?

[MaggieThisntha]

Sorry you're so hurt, OP.

 

The truth that if someone is done with a relationship, a message of any kind isn't going to make a difference. That's where some of these silly get-you-ex-back websites go wrong and give bad advice; you cannot reignite a desire in an ex if they're already gone and moving on.

 

How long were you together, and why did you break up?

 

3 years, broke up 3 months ago

We broke up because I nagged about marriage, wasnt supportive of his hobbies and he held grudges. Its more complex than that. Ive detailed it in my earliest thread....not sure how to direct the link

[MaggieThisntha]

Not to sound harsh, but with your breakup being over for a period of 3 mos. already, what do you need to clarify?

 

You're right but I'm still hurting. He was perfect for me and the feeling of self-sabotage has thrown me into deep anguish.

[Hollyj]

Maggie,

 

This guy ended a three year relationship by email. That's terrible.

 

I think that three years is plenty of time to decide on marriage. It does not sound like you two were on the same page regarding the commitment. He also ended things once before. Correct?

 

What is this about grudges? I believe you also said there was a lot of drama? This is not healthy.

 

Please stop reaching out to this guy, as it does not sound as if you are compatible. I would also suggest therapy to move on.

 

If you were perfect, there would not have been so many problems.

[Hollyj]

He cheated on you, too.

 

After reading your other threads, he sounds very manipulative and toxic. Please go back and read the other posters advice.

 

You really need to delete and block this guy's info.

[SherrySher]

He's not worth it. It will still take time for you to accept and fully let go but maybe you can make that your New Years resolution, to finally move on from him once and for all and find someone who is decent to you.

[ChellyV]

Go NC, move forward and start planning your life without him.

 

If they want back, they will, by that time you know more about life and might be able to be in a better place to make a choice to go on with him or not. As for right now, make yourself healthy and explore other things in life.