Confused as to whether I made the right decision

[Bluskiy]

I met him overseas a month ago, where somehow things progressed very quickly in the span of two weeks (first kiss, making out etc). For the past week, we've just been texting and video calling everyday. It's been a lot of fun; there's definitely a mutual chemistry... however, he lives a 12h drive away. Another thing is, he'll be doing his end of h.s exams next year while I'll be comnencing first year uni.

 

My personal attitude towards dating is only doing so with the intent to marriage, and I'm hesitant at taking this relship any further both because we're too young and because I'll probably never see him in person in the next few years if he remains where he is. So after consulting with my family & friends I decided to stop contacting him for a year (to let him focus on final exams, and to see whether we'll be in a better position to date properly for uni).

 

It's been very difficult to stop talking (honeymoon period?) and I'm wondering whether this was the right decision to cut off all contact for a year?

[Hollyj]

Sounds like a good decision to me.

[gebaird]

Long-distance relationships are tough. I think the decision you made was wise and will probably save you a lot of heartbreak down the road. I'm sure you are missing him a lot right now, but it will get easier with time.

 

There is an integrity factor in relationships that's important for maintaining respect. If you told him you are cutting off contact for a year, going back to him after only a few weeks will send the message that you don't mean what you say. Not a great foundation for a relationship.

 

I think the idea of dating in order to marry is a good one, however I will also add that it's okay to date a variety of different people to figure out what you do and don't like.

[Wiseman2]

Trying to turn a holiday fling into "dating for marriage" when you are both 18 or so not to mention long distance is unrealistic.

 

You did the right thing to be free for uni and focus on meeting real people and getting involved on campus and with your college life.

 

In the future, try not to turn a date or two into a marriage. You need to get to know people through dating. A hot kiss or two is not a good reason to start planning a wedding.

I met him overseas a month ago, where somehow things progressed very quickly in the span of two weeks. he lives a 12h drive away.My personal attitude towards dating is only doing so with the intent to marriage

[JaggerJim]

I think you took a hot smooch on the lips as a recipe for marriage. Ummmm no.

 

 

Your only 18. Plenty of time for a real relationship.