Vacation Breakup

[RookieoftheYea]

My girlfriend broke up with me after six months, on our last day of our vacation after I expressed to her I felt she was being distant. Without getting into the long detailed story, she has constantly expressed she tends to self-destruct when she goes through something. She has difficulty expressing herself verbally and communicating feelings, which has been detrimental to our relationship.

 

She didn't give me an explanation, she just kept apologizing. We cried together, I dropped her off home and she gave me a big emotional hug as she walked away. We had a good relationship, this came out of left field. I obviously am very hurt. It's so frustrating thinking that it has nothing to do with me, but rather a person is blocking their happiness simply because they are in their own head.

 

I am well aware I need to go NC because she may need time to gather her feelings and of course it is difficult, but I know I have the will power to do it, based on the reasons given on this site. I'm also scared of trying to move on with a little false hope and being disappointed.

 

I guess I am posting more for support and venting. I'm hurting and I actually am even sad for her knowing she has issues to the point she's willing to push me away. Or maybe, I need to come to he realization, she might not have been into me. I don't know, that's the problem with being in a relationship with two different love languages.

[Scoe141]

There's a reason why this site is called, "enotalone". Most of on here have been there. Including myself. Sometimes there is nothing you can do about someone's actions, only how to respond to them.

 

I'd stay busy, delete her number and push forward. At the end of the day, you should be with someone who wants to be with you unequivocally.

 

We're here for you.

[RookieoftheYea]

Thank you. You said a lot in little words.

[rosereji]

My girlfriend broke up with me after six months, on our last day of our vacation after I expressed to her I felt she was being distant. Without getting into the long detailed story, she has constantly expressed she tends to self-destruct when she goes through something. She has difficulty expressing herself verbally and communicating feelings, which has been detrimental to our relationship.

 

She didn't give me an explanation, she just kept apologizing. We cried together, I dropped her off home and she gave me a big emotional hug as she walked away. We had a good relationship, this came out of left field. I obviously am very hurt. It's so frustrating thinking that it has nothing to do with me, but rather a person is blocking their happiness simply because they are in their own head.

 

I am well aware I need to go NC because she may need time to gather her feelings and of course it is difficult, but I know I have the will power to do it, based on the reasons given on this site. I'm also scared of trying to move on with a little false hope and being disappointed.

 

I guess I am posting more for support and venting. I'm hurting and I actually am even sad for her knowing she has issues to the point she's willing to push me away. Or maybe, I need to come to he realization, she might not have been into me. I don't know, that's the problem with being in a relationship with two different love languages.

Hey, keep your head up. If she really cares about you and still loves you, then she will come back. If not, just keep yourself busy. Focus on yourself and find ways to be happy without her. It will be hard now, but time will heal.

[RookieoftheYea]

Hey, keep your head up. If she really cares about you and still loves you, then she will come back. If not, just keep yourself busy. Focus on yourself and find ways to be happy without her. It will be hard now, but time will heal.

 

Thank you, I hope so.